BW - glad you've had a restful day - it sounds like it's done the trick to get you feeling a lot better - and don't fret about the pj's - i did the same!!! only just had a shower now so that i was dressed before DH got home from work (and isn't it all the way - you crave a long hot shower and the pilot light on the hot water service goes out!!!). with regard to the baby shower, i don't know what to advise you sweet. i've been put in the situation of being in the same reoom as a number of pg women, and i didn't cope too well either. i guess a lot of it would depend on how good a friend it is and whether you would be able to overcome your discomfort to be there cos they're one of your best friends... maybe talk it over with the friend herself - she knows what you're going through and would probably be really sympathetic of your situation...

Jo - there are lots of things you can say for why you're not drinking - and most people wouldn't pick up on it! you're driving home, you've had a stomach bug/gastro this week and don't want to push it! i'm sure you'll be creative!!! i tend to use the "i'm driving" thing most of the time - and if we're walking, we're usually at the house of a friend who knows we're going through treatment, so if i say i just don't want to drink, they let it go. i've become very well practiced at declining drinks fairly regularly over the past year or so (gotta love the dental surgery for some things - don't care who knows about that, so the idea of alcohol and strong pain killers not matching has been awesome!!) - so now if i decline a drink, noone seems to notice it at all! hey, there's an idea - you have a bit of a tooth ache (or any other type of ache) and taking painkillers or antibiotics and don't want to mix them with alcohol!!! enjoy the wedding

Taffy - the holding pattern thing sucks, doesn't it??? but the 8th of may isn't that far off, and i believe it's going to be a good omen for you (it's my bday!!)

as for me, well, as much as i don't want to, it's time to turn the computer off and get organised. would much rather stay here stalking the threads, but if i don't get organised, all i'm doing is delaying the inevitable. hopefully by this time tomorrow i'll be back home and curled up on the couch feeling miserable from the anesthetic and the op instead of feeling miserable from anxiety attacks like i am now. wish me luck girls - talk to you all soon