Mums of Wannabe Mums

[Cupcake]

My Mum wrote me a text message the other day, from her hotel in London, asking if I had heard the latest about male fertility and push bike riding (DH is a cyclist). I wrote back and told her that she shouldn't ask questions about her son-in-law's testicles.

HAD to chuckle at your response hehe.

My Mum asked me, during our stim cycle, if it was possible for me to ask FS to 'choose a female embryo' because she already has two grandsons, thank you very much. I told her it was illegal to choose the gender unless it was for genetic reasons. She then tried to think of some genetic reasons for me to have a girl.

Oh dear...

Im not going through IVF or anything but have been TTC for over 12 months; no matter who says it i HATE when people say "just relax, it will happen when you relax"

My mum doesnt really know we are TTC but i got...

"You and DP need to have a baby, maybe then you will stop buying pets..."

i love my mum to bits but i was so shocked, i think she was only joking at how many pets we have, but if only she knew what she ACTUALLY said to me ...

[Krikkit]

Well..

MY Mum.. told me she told my step sister about "our" situation - she is in her late 30's and her hubby is heading into the 40's and they TTC for 12 months and the only reason they conceived is because my step sister used to lie on her back and pedal in the air after DTD. Never the less, I was told that is what I SHOULD do - it works. So the topic of converstation always led to my mother discussing mine and hubbys sexual habits.

MY Mum .. came around yesterday and proceeded to bend over and talk into my stomach to the non-existant baby. Then tell us its a boy?? wtf??

MY Mum told us we should get a sperm donor.

My Mum told us to get someone elses eggs if mine dont work properly

My Mum told me we should adopt instead.

My Mum told me if we adopt, can I get a little asian baby with spiky hair or one with dark skin *they are so cute*

My Mum is clearly insane.

[Persephone1]

MY Mum .. came around yesterday and proceeded to bend over and talk into my stomach to the non-existant baby. Then tell us its a boy?? wtf??

My Mum did the same...and I wasn't even in a cycle, so there was nothing in there, not even an embryo. She patted my stomach.

And My Mum has also asked whether we should get a sperm donor. In front of DH. Nice.

My Mum told me if we adopt, can I get a little asian baby with spiky hair or one with dark skin *they are so cute*

OMG, seriously, she's insane. But had me

[Muppity]

I am SO GLAD that it isn't just me.

[Persephone1]

Ooh, I keep thinking of more and more.

When I had my chemical pregnancy, I completely fell to pieces. I had to have counselling for early miscarriage, because I really hit rock-bottom. I told Mum that we would be taking a month off IVF because I needed the break. She was 'disappointed' because she thought it would be a better idea to 'build on the momentum' and go straight into another cycle. Not sure what momentum she was referring to - the momentum where I keep going until I fall into a crevass?

She also rang me one day to tell me that one of her workmates was pregnant with twins. She said she got very upset because DH and I had been trying for so long and it was...wait for it...her turn. Not my turn. Her turn.

I think My Mum needs to come with a translator - everything she says to me can be translated loosely into: "Please hurry up and get pregnant, I want to live through you and have another grandchild. At any cost. Regardless of what you think/feel."

[Nasey79]

Thanks for this girls....I thought that I was being selfish because I have stopped telling my Mum half of what we are going through because I couldn't stand how she reacted. I'm so pleased that it's not just me!

My Mum tells my husband every time she sees him that he needs to were looser underpants!

[MummaSue]

Oh Persephone, that made me giggle so much..... my mum is exactly the same.

My mum was upset when my little cousin fell pregnant because my aunt (who she doesn't get on with) got to be a granny first.

My mum, who fell pregnant with me at 15 told me (when referring to getting pregnant) that "it's easy, I mean, it worked for me" - I said "mother, everyone would fall pregnant at 15, we are most fertile then, we just aren't all that stupid". (as you can imagine, that didn't go down too well).

My mum, when hearing about our first IVF cycle said "well, you know you just need to relax, oh and also you need to put on some weight" (years ago I was very overweight and was always told that I was too fat and needed to lose weight).

I've told my mum that she isn't allowed to ask me anything about the IVF and that I will tell her if there is anything she needs to know. When I was chatting to her on skype the other day (I'm Scottish and live in Aus), she says to me "what's wrong with your skin? Are you having a bad reaction to the hormones?" - her way of trying to ask me stuff about the IVF.

*sigh*

DH's mother text him the other day and told him that we need to stop stressing, not bother with IVF and just drink lots of that "lovely Aussie wine". Because, yeah, THAT is how we get pregnant people, didn't you all know that?????????

Dear. God.

This has been a great thread guys, thanks for letting me get my two bobs worth!!
Hugs to all.
Sue xxx

[Cupcake]

My Mum tells my husband every time she sees him that he needs to were looser underpants!