wow, this thread is like a bit of pressure being taken off!
i spent the journey TTC my DD very much alone. i was told at the tender age of 20 that i was basically infertile due to advance endometriosis and given the 'needle in a haystack' analogy by my then OB/GYN on my chances of conceiving without AC.
throughout our 2 year TTC journey i kept quiet with my mum as early on she made some off-hand comments that IVF was inappropriate and if one 'can't have kids than 'they' should just accept it'. i was so distraught as this was the option we were about to head into and had discussed with our FS.
when i finally told her (after the whole 'when are you gunna give me grandkids speech?') i broke down into tears saying that it just wasnt happening and she replied with: 'well, you should try (and i warn for TMI) 'doggy-style'...like WTF??!!! this was her 'scientific' approach. and yep, now that we are TTC again, she made the same comment last night.
i know that she loves me and only wants us to be happy, but i think that sometimes ppl that havent faced this road can just cut us to the core with mindless comments ITMS
I have to say that my mum and MIL are generally pretty good, but I did have one comment from my MIL that got to me. After about 5 months of TTC we told the respective families about my PCOS and the difficulties involved (where my SIL said 'oh thats no big deal, my friend has that and she just took some tablets and got pregnant') so I told DH to tell his family not to ask about it around me. So MIL asks him on the phone (which is fine) only a month or so later (so only 6mths TTC) "how long are you going to keep trying?" Maybe it was just me but it was like she was saying we should probably give up because its not working.
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