Thanks for the posts ladies. It has been so reassuring that I'm not the only one with a mother and MIL that can be so insensitive to what we are going through.

Before I got pg with my daughter, My mother would talk endlessly about how she got pg so easily (she had 9 kids!!), and how fertile my sister was (who was pg at the time), and would go out of her way to make me feel like there was something wrong with me (like we didn't already know)! This all hurt, but I learnt to just walk away and ignore her.

When we did get pg, and told her (I left it until I was 18wks), she said that I would m/c she hoped the baby died!! Unfortunately I was not able to hide my reaction to this and fell apart. I did not speak to my mother for the remainder of my pregnancy. Our beautiful daughter was born in Nov 2005. It has taken a long time to rebuild my relationship with my mother, and I keep a distance from her emotionally. I have forgiven her, but cannot forget. She loves my daughter and they get on really well.

Now we are TTc #2 and I simply choose not to tell our family anything. If anything, I try to act as if we don't want another child..... it seems easier that way.

Thanks again for the posts
Jellybean18