He also made it clear that he would NOT be available for baby-sitting duties.
My mum did that too - "I've raised my kids" was how she put it. As far as she was concerned DH & I could pay for child care.

But then when my sister thought she might be pg (she keeps forgetting to take the pill) my mother told her she could move back to Brisbane to live with mum & dad and she (mum) would look after the child so my sister could work. Geesh!