I'm glad that there are some really supportive mum's out there... mine on the other hand...

My mum is one of those people that when you have some good news... she finds the negatives about it. So, once you've told her the said good news, you end up questioning it and feeling all deflated and sad.

We never told my mum we were ttc for the 3 years we tried naturally. This year we started looking into ivf and we told her we were having probs etc, and would need ivf. Of course, she just went straight for the negatives... the cost... the house repayments... time off work.... are you even ready for kids... etc. Every negative that could be thought of, she let us know it. Even my grandmother, who I am quite close to, was really negative about it. Which really suprised me since my aunty had gone through it years before.

Needless to say we no longer bring up this subject either.

But also, this goes with any subject. When I said I was pursuing photography, everyone was happy/excited/supportive... but not my parents...

My aunty went through ivf 16 years ago... and got lucky on her first try (my cousin is 16 now) but had about 8 failed attempts since. She has been so supportive. But seriously, it is ultimately my husband and I on this road and it can be quite lonely without the support. And we're only in the beginning!


I like forums like this because it provides the support you need, when you need it with people who really understand. And 99% of the time everyone give positive support. I know that I would totally be alone if I didn't have these forums.

I do wish that my family could be supportive though...