David, I have only just become aware of your book in the last couple of days and will definitely pick up a copy for myself.
My biggest issue of late has been dealing with comments from my mother in law. It took a long time before I agreed to let my DH tell her we were going through IVF. Straight away she looked at me and said "oh, so you have problems down there?" I was obviously shocked and speechless. I was on IVF drugs at the time so she is quite lucky I didn't rip her head off. We then had to explain we have unexplained infertility, and that was nothing wrong with anyone. Even now, a few months later she still brings it up and doesn't understand that it is possible for there to be nothing wrong and that we simply have not been able to conceive. I feel that she blames me. She forever talks about how fertile her whole family are (so were mine if truth be known, so I never thought it would be a problem for us, but obviously it is).
I really regret sharing it with her, but now that I have I have to deal with her and her comments.
I guess in a way, some of the things she says seep into my brain and gets me blaming myself for this (even though I know it's no one's fault). I wish I could take back everything we told her, but I can't and now I have to learn to cope with her without causing any more tension.