Well the counsellor was fantastic. Gave us both some great tips about how to deal with all that we are going through ~ especially for DH to try & understand how I am going. As he said because men aren't as emotionally attached to our babies until they are born then it is easy for them to forget that we women may still be having trouble coming to terms with what has happened. He did tell me that I need to stop trying to be so strong for everyone else & let it all out once in a while & that I need to cry & cry & cry over the loss of this precious baby & all the hopes & dreams that we begin to imagine for them the minute we know we are pregnant. So it all made perfect sense for us. We are seeing him again in a fortnite which I think will do us the world of good. We never got joint counselling after we lost Alex, in fact DH never got any counselling & I only went a few times, so we are hoping that this will make the transition time after our loss a bit easier. After Alex we were seriously starting to get into some serious marital trouble so here's hoping we manage to avoid this this time around by reaching out & getting the help that we need.