I also know someone with 18 month old twins after having an IVF m/c after 2 years on IVF (first pg). For her the m/c was another failure, but for him, he saw it as success in a sense, as at least they finally knew that conception was possible. Maybe that was just what they needed - next cycle was a charm!
BeiBei, thanks so much for starting this thread! I'm in the same place as you and also wondering the same things.
After going through 19 months of TTC, discovering we both had fertility issues, IVF, OHSS, simply reaching transfer was a joy in itself. The fact that the transfer worked was simply amazing, and the miscarriage has been a horrible, crushing blow. Especially as I went through a time of denial when I couldn't believe I was actually pregnant and had finally come to accept and believe and then... whammy.
I do think it is important to focus on the future and the next step rather than dwelling on what might have been. But for me, with so many weird things going on in my body I don't think I'm going to be able to go back again until I've had everything checked out.
While working on yourself physically, don't forget to work on your mental state as well. I think I'm so focussed on the mental state that I could easily forget the phsyical aspects of preparing myself for the next cycle.
I'm trying to focus on the positives here - we know that we can produce embryos that work, can stick... we've just got another obstacle to get around, and in some ways it's no different to the other obstacles we have faced along the way which brought us to IVF in the first place.
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