IVF and M/C

[butterfly_warrior]

As much as Wednesday hurt me at the time, I do know it was necessary. There was an emotional response at first, and once that has cleared I've been able to deal with things in a more rational manner. I suspect that the harshness of what was said came across because I was talking about it when I was still in that emotional state.

Was it necessary? Yes. Would it have worked if he'd been more subtle? No. Sure, it wasn't pleasant, but it was something I needed to hear and something that I would have ignored if it wasn't done in a forceful manner. He's a very astute judge of character and right now I do not feel as though he's done anything wrong at all. From what he has shared with us of his personal life, I can see exactly why he is like he is with some things. If he hadn't been so blunt and direct, I'd have been very likely to go back before I'm really ready - and that would do me no favours at all in the end. It's very much a tough love situation - being cruel to be kind, but I know that I needed it.

You are right - one step at a time and don't get too far ahead of yourself. It will be interesting to see exactly what happens for me in terms of cycles - I suspect AF arriving will be extremely confronting, but probably something I need to face before I'm ready to go again.

As horrible as it is that we are both in this boat, it is good to be able to share our experiences, our thoughts, our pain.

Getting back to the original question - I suspect that if there's any increased chance of miscarrying with IVF, it's probably more related to the underlying condition that made IVF necessary rather than the fact that it was IVF. Make sense?

BW

[Cuddlepie]

BW, I am glad that you have now passed the emotional stage and can look at the situation with new perspective. I don't know whether its lucky for you to have him or him to have a patient like you with sharp observations...at the end of the day, as far as it does the trick, I am happy for you. It is actually surprising that our judgement could be constantly evolving, like my boss always told me, 'if you are not sure about anything, there is always tomorrow morning....you could have a brand new perspective'.

Getting back to the original question - I suspect that if there's any increased chance of miscarrying with IVF, it's probably more related to the underlying condition that made IVF necessary rather than the fact that it was IVF. Make sense?
BW

Totally make sense, but as for my case is 'unexplained infertility', so its just doing my head in a bit...IYKWIM... oh, well, some of the questions in our head probably will never be anwsered anyway...so we just can't be too hard on ourselves, can we?

HAve a good night!