S'OK lovely, I know you're not having a go. But I do think "my lifestyle means I'm a crap parent" just isn't an excuse. It's one my own mother has tried to use to garner sympathy. I have very little for her - she made her lifestyle stressful, she took on too much, she chose to take it out on me. I have chosen a job that can be stressful - but that's not an excuse to be a bad parent to my son, who didn't choose for me to be in a bad mood.