Oh Nettie didn't mean to make anyone cry!

I think it is great you are taking all those great things from your Mum and passing them on. It is wonderful you are putting that energy into it. I too try to continue on some traditions like I say goodnight to the kids using the same words my Mum did.

I also find it hard my kids won't have the same sense of my Mum and she won't be as important to them or they won't love her like I did. I show them photos and I refer to her as Granny as she wanted to be known so at least in a small way I feel I am connecting her to them rather than her just being my Mum.

It's a hard road.
Lana, I do the same with good night words and I sing them the songs my mum used to sing to me. I haven't done the photo thing yet mainly because most of them are packed away. I will definitely nurture that though once the girls are a tiny bit older and can understand a bit more. DD1 knows she has an angel grandma which is nice when I hear her talking about her.

Meow, there are plenty of things my mum did that I choose not to do as well. I'm sorry that you have had to go through your experience but it's lovely that you have taken positivity away from it.

Red robin, I could have written your exact post. I have pushed so much deep deep down and probably not dealt with it properly but it was and is the only way I can cope. I get jealous of others too whose mums are so helpful. I know my mum would have dropped everything to help 'me if I needed....you've just got to deal with it don't you? And try not to think too much....