i feel it detrimental to a mothers health to read that what shes doing is evil and psychologically damaging. i think the wording of some posts makes them come across in a different manner to how they are meant.
i will continue to do things my way, with a little of this and a little of that, and a lot of whatever works for my dd, regardless of anyones opinion. i do hope others wont change what works for them just because a few people told them its evil
This comes up a lot. I understand what you're saying but I have a different view. As an (extreme) example: What if a mother beats her child every time it does something wrong. She thinks she's doing what works best for her bc the result is she has a child who is always compliant and doesn't throw tantrums. Clearly this is not the best situation for a child. Should we just say 'each to their own' and not disagree, not tell her there is a better way, not tell her that science has proven this is detrimental to her child, in order to spare her feelings???? I don't think so personally.

Again, an extreme example, I of course don't think anyone is severely damaging their child in this way!!!! But I do not agree with CC at all and I do believe that research suggests it can be damaging to children. I'm not willing to take that chance.