I was not going to post any further, as I have already stated,I dont feel the need to justify myself, Ds is a very happy, affectionate, well adjusted engaging little kid.

I am pretty sure there are no vacant stares here.

BUT to anyone who takes exception to SOS or any non gentle method of self settling, YOU DO REALISE THAT MY BABY DOESNT CRY HIMSELF TO SLEEP EVERYTIME I PUT HIM IN BED DONT YOU?
The first sleep, on the first day, it was 20 mins, by day 2 I put him in his cot and didnt hear a peep.
Far out people, does anyone of you seriously want to tell me that your kid has never cried for 20 mins for one reason or another?

I guess I lucky enough that I didnt treat the book like it was some kind of gospel that I had to follow to the letter. I used my judgement and took the bits and pieces that worked for us and went with them.
So when people post about what I think of the book, I can honestly reply "I read it, I used parts of it, and they worked for us"

Skybie, how lovely and gentle of you to suggest that because of my differing opinion I should perhaps find a different forum. Maybe you should consider posting your opinions on gentle parenting in the gentle parenting section of this forum, not the routines and programs section