anna, mlm and curly - exactly, women should support each other, and support in a positive way,. its hard enough raising kids without fighting with other mothers.

heaven, as i said in earlier posts, there are ways to positively support mothers by suggesting alternative methods that may make them want to consider them, then there are ways to suggest other methods that make the parent decide not to even think about them due to the way they were suggested. someone beating their child is hardly the same thing, and even then if you want to tell someone what they are doing is wrong, you have to broach the subject tactfully, and on a level that person can understand and feel comfortable with, not making them feel attacked and told what to do.

skybie my CHN is actually a lc, which from what i hear is rare in the public system in a rural area, there are none that i could find within an hour drive as i live in the sticks, because of this she focuses mainly on bf support and runs a weekly bf group. i attempted to discuss sleep issues, settling, cues, how much etc with her and she told me bf group (which is the only time she sees people other than the initial home visit) is not the place and if i need help i have to get a referral to a sleep clinic in sydney, so for me this was an absolute last resort.
i agree that perhaps bb is not the place for everyone, i have thought that for myself for a couple of weeks now, but i have made some terrific friends on here, i get a lot out of bb and i hope that my baby buddies contributions are positive ones to my fellow buddies, so im not sure that i want to give up the people i have met and our thread.
when i googled pregnancy when ttc, bb came up, the info section on google never mentioned gentle parenting once, and i never read any of that stuff till recently, as i stuck to the section that matched my situation, ttc then pregnancy and now baby, i never read ahead, so until recently never knew this about bb.

my baby has never been forced to sleep through, i have never once failed to rise for a night cry, i have never once made her wait for a feed, yet since the very first night on sos she has slept through that was 6 weeks of age. she has not one single night woken and cried, she gains generous amounts of weight, and is rarely awake in the morning when i go in, so and i dont mean to sound rude, it is hard to emote in writing, but does this make my baby abnormal? will she be damaged and detached because she sleeps through?

there are no vacant stares or weird behaviour here either.

someone asked why do people who have read sos go on to read other books, i just wanted to know what all the fuss was about gentle parenting. honestly i had not heard the term till a few weeks ago when i looked around bb.
after doing a bit of looking around i found i had tried/failed some of these tactics, and still use others that work for me.

so if you arent a gentle parent as you use some of the sos tactics for sleep times etc, yet you dont stick to sos, and do use some of the gentle parenting tactics such as feed to sleep, no cc etc, then where does that leave you? where do you fit in? where can you freely post without breaking bb rules, without offending anyone or feeling like you are being told your harming your baby?