Thank you for your warm embraces and kind words. Yes I am still getting over losing my son. He was due now. I think the worse part of it is that I feel I must diagnose myself because I cannot trust a Dr to do it for me. Its almost like, well is my cervix incompetent and signaling the placenta to fall apart or is it the other way around. I forgot to mention that my son was delivered full sac in tac and the entire placenta was attached to it, but still no one could say what happened first, cervix vs placenta.

Sheree~~ thank you for sharing with me. No, they have never mentioned the subchronic H to me, the words were only that the placenta looked funny as if the blood vessels were kinda hanging down and around. Its so weird because everytime I had a bleeding episode like that, I didnt feel pregnant anymore or swore my stomach changed , or couldnt feel the baby there. I feel that way now, I will find out tomorrow. Ive been wrong every time before. I think I trick myself. Congrats on 20wks. Just stay resting, I wouldnt take any chances. I believe I lost my son because I was over worked and doing to much. Plus ,I was being very stupid and I smoked while pregnant as well. It was so hard to quit , I tried and tried but couldn't , it seemed worse while pregnant! Everyone kept saying the smoking didnt matter , that it was unrelated. That may be true because after my son died it was easy to quit with this pregnancy and I mean I quit totally. But yet, still having the same problems. But the warning on the label isnt on there for nothing. I blame myself. I am 34 by the way , my husband and I do not have any of our own children. I did have one successful pregnancy with my ex when I was 28. I did not bleed at all with her. My husband and I want so badly to have our own child together.

BlackDuckies~~you as well I thank for talking with me and sharing your story. The ER room is a nightmare and I feel sorry that you had to even go there. SLOOOOW. Im not going to tell you not to worry about the bleeding, because you should but not to the point where you are sure the baby will pass. What you seriously need to do is bed rest, it is the only thing and best thing available. There are no cures, no medications that help our issue. I know bed rest has helped me feel alot better, my problem was refraining from sexual activity. Its very hard for my husband and I. First ,just because of all the horrible things we have had happen to us #2 we are very attracted to each other & its a stress reliever and helps us stay close to each other. But now hes so scared he doesnt even want to touch me , and then since the bleeding and cramping always followed sex and or orgasim ,I woke up too. I think all couples are like that and when you feel fat and moody some women may feel like they must have sex with their partner to avoid him straying from them. Not worth the risk though and there are other ways to help him out LOL. You said you were thinking of having your husband stay home with you to help you. I do understand that , and it would be great if people could afford to do that. Mine cant, we totally depend on his income 100%. However, if you are able to stay home while he works, do you have some friends or relatives that can stop by every now and then to help pick up the house and cook some meals? Reach out for help dont feel bad asking people to help you.I mean really, just let the house go, who cares. Do minimum to get by. lay and sleep alot. Beef up the folic acid and vitamins that heal tissue, drink lots of water and lay down. If you can get this to heal, the bed rest may not have to last the entire time. If you do have a job maybe you can get disability with it, because I am here to tell you that if any one here has a Dr that tells you the bleeding isnt enough reason to be put up on bed rest...GET ANOTHER DR.