DP & I have been together over 11 years now & DS is nearly 6 mnths & tbh I don't want to get married. DS has DP's surname even in hospital & it wasn't going to be any other way, I had suggested maybe hyphenated but in the end it just didn't sound right.

Take your time, relax, having a child together is a much bigger commitment than getting married, when you get married you can always divorce, when you have a child together he will always be in your life.

I think briggsy's girl idea of wanting to wait until bubba is old enough to be apart of the wedding will buy you the most time.

Goodluck, enjoy your pregnancy & stay healthy.