I guess it comes down to personal opinion as well then. For me, I don't mind so much that they died, because of my religious beliefs regarding death - my problem is that I have no photos, no ashes, not even a gender. I guess you've hit a nerve with me, but I do understand what you're saying
For me, this is what makes my losses easier. Isn't it odd how one thing make one person struggle, while it soothes another. I cannot imagine the agony of losing a baby I could see and hold. I would rather lose 10 babies early than ever, ever have to face that, because I know I can deal with first trimester loss...as hard as it is, I just...I couldn't face what so many women here have faced. We're all so different.