How many times have you been pregnant? *Sensitive topic*

**craftymummy9** · September 22nd, 2011, 10:24 AM

14 pregnancies 9 live births mostly lost one inbetween each live birth, The pain of any loss never leaves you at all you just learn to live with it but when you finally get a take home baby then the pain does ease for a while but you never forget the babies you didn't get to hold ! they are always with you every day !

1st preg 1985 boy
2nd preg mc 16wks
3rd preg 1991 boy
4th preg mc 9wks
5th preg 1995 girl
6th preg 1996 boy
7th preg mc 9wks
8th preg 2001 boy
9th preg 2002 boy
10th preg 2004 girl
11th preg mc 8wks
12th preg 2005 girl
13th preg 2008 boy
14th preg mc sept 2009 13wks

**forshelby** · September 22nd, 2011, 10:38 AM

Thanks, Teni. The validation does help. Just knowing how deep my own wounds are makes my heart break for mummas who didn't get their take-home baby. I just can't imagine what that must be like. I hope I never find out.

Every day I tell myself: "This will be your weakness, or your greatest strength". I choose strength. Most days...

but it's hard.

I can't remember who said it but I agree - The women who have suffered multiple losses, stillbirths etc are my inspiration. If they can find the strength, then so can I. I've been through much much less than they have. I never knew such strength and courage existed. I think of some of you in particular daily, and try to learn from your wisdom and bravery.

**MrsFabuloso** · September 22nd, 2011, 12:32 PM

I've been through much much less than they have. I never knew such strength and courage existed. I think of some of you in particular daily, and try to learn from your wisdom and bravery.

No you haven't. None of us have been through any 'less' that the other. We have all had our own journeys and we all deal differently. Just because you haven't had more losses than the next person makes your journey any less difficult FOR YOU. Is is all totally individual and noone has any more or less 'right' to be more or less traumatised or upset by their paths on which life takes them.

**RainbowBrite** · September 22nd, 2011, 12:58 PM

Forshelby in a way I do understand where you are coming from.
Watching what my DS4 (born at 25 weeks) went through, how sick he was and how close we came to losing him (and I do know how very lucky we are that he come home 15 weeks later, I am no way comparing it to those that have tragically lost little ones) was extremely hard and a very painful journey, for me it was more painful and traumatic then my miscarriage.
Watching him struggle and suffer was the hardest thing that I have done.
Pain and trauma is very much relative to each individuals experience.
My heart goes out to all the lovely ladies who have tragically lost a little one at any stage of their pregnancy.

**crumpet** · September 22nd, 2011, 02:01 PM

2 pregnancies here...

1st one ended at 22w with pre term delivery
2nd one result in our princess

im still stunned at how common a loss is, whether it be early, or late i never imganined so many people would suffer a loss