HUGS - sounds like the Obs I saw in WA when I was trying to fall pregnant. I got all of the above - i was devestated and felt like it was MY fault we couldnt fall preggers and I had let my hubby down...
you know what - 2 weeks later I fell pregnant! HA! Take that!!!
Now @ nearly 27 weeks I have not had any problems! (touch wood)
HUGS and chin up - you are not alone!!!
Bec that doc sounds like an (insert rude word here). Tell him to go get over himself - i'm sure he was no perfect physical speciman!!! He sounds like a bully!
Wow - I had every intention of personally replying to every reply - I shall see how I go...
I just want to say a massive thank you to you all for getting angry on my behalf, giving me sympathy, cheering me on, and for sharing your stories... I feel so much better having read every reply, knowing I wasn't wrong to feel so angry at the treatment I recieved and to know that I do have a right to be pregnant and to have a baby... You are all so wonderful and I honestly didn't expect such a response. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!
Ok here goes the personals!
Snacks - I am high risk. I have suffered more than 12 miscarriages (I stopped counting at 12), my sons birth was also rather traumatic in that I suffered a second degree tear that never healed properly and I haemorraged for 2 days post birth. I was supposed to have a transfusion but some thing got screwed up and I never got it... So unfortunately I have to go to this hospital and have this care... Luckily I only have to see them again at 28, 36 and 41 weeks. The rest of the time I can see my regular Ob who doesn't have an issue with my weight and says I am deliciously pregnant!
Jellybean - I am going to find those books! I love to read anyway and I think I have read all the pregnancy books I can find so something new is always good!! Thank you!
Sloane - I love you! Seriously! You put into words exactly what was going through my head - round and round... You can tell DP from me that you can type as much as you like..! I so appreciate the support you give... Thank you so much and big hugs! Damn that one point!
Lisa - I am so glad your pregnancies went well - gives me much hope!!
Trac - Again, thank you so much for giving me so much hope! It sounds like your son was a good weight!
Angela - I'm really glad that the treatment you are getting is good! It sounds like you are doing all the right things in all the right places... And you are right - if our bodies weren't healthy enough we wouldn't be having children!
Mrs BB - Way to go!! Stupid doctors making you feel worse when you were already going through a stressful thing... Some really need to take a lesson in bedside manner I think... I am so glad that you are pregnant and are having your much wanted baby... I hope everything continues to go well and that it's everything you ever dreamed of when you hold your baby for the very first time...
Wow - I did it. I probably didn't say everything I wanted to say because I was so worried about replying to everyone but I just really wanted you to know that each reply meant a lot to me and that I appreciated the time you went to, to post it. You really have no idea the weight (hahahah - now if body weight was that easy to shift!) you have lifted from my shoulders... You are all right and wonderful for putting yourselves out there to help a complete stranger feel better! What would I do without my Belly Belly friends?
Bec, that is absolutely horrible. He has no right to speak to you that way at all. You have every right to be angry and upset about being treated that way. So much for a 'professional'.
This guy could cause a more vulnerable woman some horrific long term body issues that could hurt her and her baby. I'd put in a complaint, just to see his tongue is reigned in. You'd be doing a public service.
I have always been overweight in mine, high BMI on some. No GD, no PE. It was probably better for my babies and myself that I was. I suffer from HG and without the excess, having been undiagnosed for so long could have been far worse than it was. So much for it always being a bad thing.
OMG what total BS about what your OB said, get yourself a new OB firstly.
I am overweight 107kgs, im not sure what you are, and I have 2 healthy children. Yes my Ob thought I am at risk for diabetes, but I went on a low GI diet the wholet way through my first pregnancy and didnt get it. I actually only gained 3kgs during my first pregnancy. I week after birth I was 97kgs, and one month later I was 87kgs. The birth was emergency c/s but nothing to do with my weight.
Even with my 2nd pregnancy (which I wasnt on low GI diet) I didnt watch what I ate, I did put on 10kgs, but lost it a week after birth, elective c/s due to my first emergency one.
Pre eclampsia runs in my family I didnt get it at all.
If you exercise daily (walking is best) and eat low GI you will lower any risk due to being overweight, totally recommend it, I showed them I did it!
I remember the first time i saw the doc about preg. She weighed me and made a comment about only needing to put on 7kgs. I had a m/c and weight was never mentioned with her again.
My ob weighs at first appt and then he never weighed me again. I assume it goes by look of preg person as he always commented on how healthy i look. Never had any complications. No one ever asked how many kgs and they were gone when dd was discharged from hosp at 2wks old. Preterm birth had nothing to do with weight it was srom which seems to run in the family generally.
I relaise i am overweight well obese is more tech correct. But I am a size 14-16 most of the time. I don't eat too badly but i also don't have the full indicator in my brain. I have always been heavy even when skinny.
A health check when i was 6 wks preg bascially determined i was overweight but i passed all aspects of the test for hip/waist ratio, diabeties, blood pressure etc etc. So i am fat but healthy otherwise. My biggest prob is that I am short so i don't get much leeway on BMI. I am probably shorter than I my genes would usually dictate (i am shorter than my short mum and my dad's quite tall) because i had a poor diet at that cricial growing spurt stage in early teens due to family situation. My daughter looks to be above average height (dad's quite tall) and while she is only 2 she is in good shape being above average height & average weight so I hold out hope she won't have the same struggles.
OMG Bec what a bastard. i have a high BMI way over 40 with my first pregnancy i fell pregnant straight away and besides some High blood pressure had a healthy pregnancy and baby boy only put on 7 kg. after i had him though i put on 20kgs i then lost 15kg and 3yrs of trying went to see a gyn who prescribed me clomid to have my 2nd son - she didnt judge me for being large as she saw i had tried really hard to lose the weight ( i have PCOS and insulin resistant) i put on 10kgs no pregnancy problems. 2 yrs later i am now about to give birth to number 3 i fell pregnant 1st mth off pill after i had lost 16kg doing low gi diet still had a high BMI i have GD with this one but thats the only problem i have been lucky to have had nice doctors who dont make nasty comments i have also only out on 7kgs so far which is what i was told was good for my size.
so dont listen to what they say, if you feel healthy even though your not classed as the 'norm' then good on ya. not everyone fits in with the soo called DATA that doctors use to justify what they say to us larger people. i have less health problems than most thinner people i know.
i hope the rest of your pregnancy will be a joyful one and u can avoid seeing the fatphobic doctor.
I too am apparently considered "overweight" and one of the obs I saw at the clinic had me in a mad panic not about gestational diabetes but full blown diabetes for myself, not to mention the whole high blood pressure thing he even had me down as a high risk pregnancy, I then saw a different ob a couple of weeks later who said I was perfectly fine and didn't have to see the obs anymore could just see the midwives as there is nothing wrong with me, I guess it depends on who you see if you have a choice I would demand a different one and maybe make a formal complaint cause that is just plain rude!!!!
I am technically obese. My ob has discussed my weight only so far as to calm my worries about something I read in the media that was negative (and scary) about obese women giving birth. She has asked me my weight a couple of times in my visits, but never made a big deal out of it. I've gained around 10 kg so far in my pregnancy (33 weeks).
I had my glucose tolerance test a little early, just in case (I also have borderline PCOS, so I was considered at a higher risk for GD), and my results were perfectly normal.
My blood pressure has been absolutely fine so far throughout my pregnancy. No sign of pre-eclampsia either, or any other problem at all.
I am quite physically active (decreasing now, admittedly), am still riding my bicycle around locally (I stopped riding it to work at about 24 weeks). I am walking lots and keep busy through the day. I eat well and am careful about my health in general. I haven't bothered with a low-GI diet, but generally eat sensibly.
I am sure that I have as good a chance as any other healthy woman of having a perfectly normal pregnancy and birth.
I think you should absolutely complain to the hospital about that doctor and request to never see him again and to not have him attend your birth. I am sure there is space in the system for this. Hospital systems are large and daunting, and like other large, daunting systems I think they are probably a lot more flexible than they look - it's a question of keeping on asking firmly until they give you what you want. I think that his attitude actually puts you and your baby at more risk and that this is worth getting "up in arms about".
Im sorry if this offends anyone but what a total w@&^@# of a doctor.
Look i am overweight and have been for both my pregnancy's, i have had two healthy babies and no problems at all. Yes we all know we are at higher risk carrying extra weight but if you remain active and eat properly during your pregnancy you should have nothing to worry about.
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and show him how healthy and happy you are and your baby will be.
I was overweight when I fell pregnant. I was also 41 so apparently being old & fat put me at a higher risk of high BP, GD, PE & so many other complications.
I did not get high BP.
I did not get GD.
I did not get pre eclampsia (ate lots of chocolate to try to avoid it as I read you were less likely to get it if you ate a little choccy every day).
I had no complications whatsoever during the pregnancy.
I did however have a long & difficult labour which I have read can be a result of being overweight (also could've been because of my age).
My OB did not once mention that my weight put me or the bub at any risk of anything whatsoever.
YOu know I don't know what my BMI is and frankly don't give a ***** either. PG#1 I was 135kg- I m/c and was told by the GP, who I went to for a referral for a d&c, what a lean diet I should be on before I consider conceiving again. Pg#2 I gained 6 kgs from day dot to 21 wks when we lost our little boy. NOTHING was mentioned about my weight as it was a cervical issue. PG#3 I was pg 8 wks after losing our boy and by 28 wks was in hossy for high b/p. The first hospital and Ob team were great but I had to be transferred to bris.
There I was treated like a f@*%n leper. One Ob who was trying to take bloods told me I was going to die and leave my baby without a mummy if I didn't lose weight and another told me I didn't deserve to be pg. I gave birth at 31 wks due to PE and all I heard about at that hossy was that it was my fault coz of my weight yet I was in a room with 3 other women with the same condition and they were tiny. My whole time there I met only 3 other big women with PE. My sis is the smaller than a stick and she got PE worse than me. My mum had PE and my gran had PE-you see where Im going with this!
Bec I hope you have an absolutely FABULOUS PG and if you get the chance shove it in his face if you have to see him again and you have no problems- Give him a big I told you so!!!!
Thank you so much girls, for sharing your stories... It means so much to me to know I am not alone and that I'm not not normal, IYKWIM?
Tiffanny - I can't believe they treated you so so badly. It breaks my heart that at a time when you need love, care and support, you get treated like s***. Obviously the PE was due to the family history. My OB asked about that and I said no - no one has had it before and my blood pressure and everything was perfect with my first born. He was still adamant that I was a prime candidate and that I was sure to get it just from being overweight.
I really am sorry you didn't get the care you deserved.
Again a big big thank you. Reading your stories puts me at so much ease that there is no way to put it into words...
Reply With QuoteBec that doc sounds like an (insert rude word here). Tell him to go get over himself - i'm sure he was no perfect physical speciman!!! He sounds like a bully!
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