I have never felt pressure to have a" perfect birth" mainly because of my own attitude.

With DD1 I did everything the mids/obs wanted my to do and did not question a thing. In fact I was all geared up to have an epi/take the drugs as everyone urged me to do. Thankfully none of that was required. However, if I had done some more research I may not have been stuck on a bed for 3 hours hooked up to monitors and I may not have had to push for 2 hours if I had known more about birthing positions the unneccessary need to be hooked up to machines etc.

With DD2 I was more aware however this time around they broke my waters to speed things up!!! My labour went from managable to **** in 1 minute. Yes DD was born 5 mins later and I had a super quick birth but I tore incredibly. In hindsight I realise that I did not need my waters breaking at all, it was the staff who wanted my labour to be quick. I had other issues post birth as well.

With this next bub I have questioned all the little things that were not quite right with my other labours and I have done some research so I am going into this labour with an idea of what I definatetly don't want to happen and I have supported reasons for it. I guess I am a little less likely to take the medical staffs requests/recommendations at face value.

I still don't feel the pressure to have a perfect birth but my experience has taught me question things so that I can have the best birth possible at the time!!!