We had been together for over 4 years and married for over 2.. it was not planned (alothough DH likes to hint that he "let" it happen) given that we have only ever had ONE slip up (we dont use protection, we use the pull out method but not that time) and thats all it took (though i have a sad sinking feeling it wont be so easy next time but thats another story..) when i found out DHs reaction? "NO" no we werent doing it, no we werent ready, no we couldnt afford it, just no! termination was not an option, i had secretly wished for this little baby for so long. We didnt talk for a week (he works FIFO) and the day before he was due to come home he called me and said "Right, we're having a baby!!" we had our rough patches, like alot of people we had to scrifice alot, make alot of changes to our day to day life, and priorities shifted but she is the love of his life.. and mine. and neither of us would have it any other way.