Greenslw!!!!! NO NO NO NO!!!! Honestly NO! Tell her NO! Everyone I speak to who is involved in birth and attending women at birth have told me to not have anyone around who you are not completely happy with. It is all about you, DH and this baby! NOONE else!! That was the reason I told my Dad that my Step mother was not coming down for the birth. This is YOUR time and everyone else can go to hell!!! Sorry I am passionate about this!! I have spoken to midwives and doulas about this and they all say this is not the time for politeness and selflessness. Everyone should be doing what you say and if you have to have a hissy fit to get it, then have the biggest hissy fit ever seen in the Southern Hemisphere!!! Tell them you are having a 'babymoon' and that they are welcome to come see the baby after that. Also it is a bit cheeky to ask for 1/2 of the fare! Young couples starting a family should not have to fork out for people to come and see their baby. As I said to my Dad 'No true grandparent would begrudge a few pounds for their grandchild so as far as I am concerned she is not my child's grandchild!!' (bit easier for me because she is a stepmother and not my mother but you get the idea!)
Please I urge you to put you first here. This is your first baby and you need everyone to be making you feel like a queen. If you want them all to stand on their heads while you are giving birth then they should!!!! Don't feel obliged to do anything you feel slightly uncomfortable about at this time!
Last edited by Loveinamist; November 23rd, 2009 at 10:53 PM.
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