Pregnancy after Long Term TTC - Jan 2008

[traceylee]

Hi Ladies,

Thought I would jump in and say Hi as I havent for quite some time. I have been lurking occassionally but as always, difficult to find the time.

Happy to hear all of you are doing well at your different stages. Its wonderful to see you all moving through this journey with excitement & anticipation.


Take Care,

Tracey

[satya]

Hi everyone,

Kimbe - congrats on your engagement. I wasn't sure what to refer to my partner as when I started to post on BB but went with DF as we are engaged, but we do live together as well, so maybe should be DP. It's all much of a muchness I reckon.

I became an aunty for the first time yesterday. My DF's sister gave birth to a girl by c section and we got to go visit them last night. Was a weird feeling to know that probably the next new born I hold will be my own. I'm getting little movements every day now - an industrial vaccuum cleaner was used near me at work today and it was incredibly loud and bubs promptly woke up and gave me a kick. Had my first experience of stress incontinence a couple of days ago - I had two powerful sneezes in a row and out it came with the second one... luckily was at home at the time. I now carry a spare pair of nickers in my handbag....just in case.

[onthefly]

ooo Satya, I had a bad cough early in 2nd tri and same thing - not nice.

Nice to see you here again Tracey - hope you're doing well too.

Hope you enjoyed your day off Lenny - what a great idea. I've just spoken to work about bringing my maternity leave forward by a week - just not coping very well 'mentally', sure all know what I mean... Is your DH still worried about washing them?

oh wow, a placenta - what'd it look like? was it really huge?

And yes, new members please! any lurkers, please don't be shy... it can seem a bit daunting to join in amid lots of conversation, but the more the merrier! Especially with the new parenting after LTTTC thread just opened - we might lose our new mummies.

Nic - your DD is so sweet!

Take care everyone

[Ltl Panda]

Hey girls, I am in labour....contractions started at about 2:30 am waters broke then as well. will let you all know once back home....
Feeling pretty good at the moment, contractions are pretty regular so I am hoping on a short one.

talk soon.

[nic]

Oh YAY Ltl Panda will be thinking of you today Wow, you're gonna have your bubba in your arms soon!!

nic

[sushee]

Hi ladies,

just wanted to let you know that after much consideration, BellyBelly now has a Parenting after LTTTC forum. We recognise the unique challenges of parenting after LTTTC - there is often more anxiety and it is also sometimes difficult to join a baby buddy group that has been together throughout their pg in Belly Buddies whereas you've mostly posted in here.

So for a place to chat once you've had bub, please join the Parenting After Long Term TTC forum. I'll be there too, so it doesn't matter how long ago it was that you had your baby, if you are still in LTTTCer at heart, and this in turn affects the way you parent, or you just want to chat, come join in. Pg ladies of this thread, please feel free to come say hello as well!

[Lenny]

Oooo, Ltl Panda - I'll be thinking of you today, and can't wait to hear! Good luck girl!!

Marcellus - yes, DH is scared of washing nappies. I have assured him he only needs to put them in the nappy pail and i'll do the rest, but he's adamant. We'll see. I don't want to exclude him for all the little tasks, (after all, he can't b/f) so if i have to alternate between sposies and MCN's for a while, until he gets the hang of it, then so be it.

Nic - I don't like second hand things normally - but i think this time it was worth it. I like the idea of the Grobags 'cos they are 100% cotton. I think it's cool that you are getting to see all the exciting new things for parents and bubs since your DD was a baby. Some of the fun of being a first timer!

We still don't have the carseat/capsule thing sorted yet...

[lismith25]

Yay Little Panda, Good Luck and im sending you all the vibes for a quick and as painfree as possible labour.

Im experiencing awful back pain at the moment, I have been taped up which is helpng me sleep, though I will be greatful when my body starts to get back to normal.....and in 3 months time I will be overdue omg!!!!

Belly rubs x

[onthefly]

Yay! A little ltl panda coming along very soon! Will be thinking of you today and eagering awaiting news.

Your hubby seems a bit sqeamish Lenny . I'm sure he'll get the hang of it though. Won't be long and we'll all be knee-deep in baby poo...

[kimbe]

Yep Monnie, it is supposedly me next, but who knows, if i go late and Lenny &/or Marcellus go early then we could all be in around the same time.

Just awoke after a nice little sleep...driving mum to the airport and then coming home really took it out of me - given some of you are doing a 2+hr drive to see a Dr i don't know how you do it. It was nice having mum down and hearing her labour stories and just chatting about what she was doing when she was my age etc. Unfortunately, the time spent together didn't help bring on an early delivery as i was hoping though. So as she hugged me goodbye at the airports drop off zone it was "i hope you have a good labour, enjoy it, know the pain will stop, and i'll see you again when you're a mum and i'm a nanna again" It was really nice.

I'm with you Lenny on the sooner the better though. I just want the "new life to begin" but my mum made a good point saying, don't go wishing bub's life away. Blah blah blah LOL!

Well, we're off to a farewell for our best mates who are moving to Qld tonight. DH is not a regular drinker but will have a few with this particular friend and given the circumstances i think a good healthy consumption of alcohol is in order, but I have said on the side that even though i'm happy to do the drive home, he'll need to take it a little easy on the beer & port just incase things begin to move.

Hope you are all having a wonderful weekend. The weather here in Sydney is glorious, hope its the same around the rest of the country!

[traceylee]

Hi Ladies,

Kimbe - such a nice story about dropping your mum at the airport "see you when Im a nanna again". That's so sweet. You're right about the weather in Sydney. It has been the most beautiful weekend we have had for some time and it makes me feel good with such perfect weather. Wishing you all the best for your last week. Hope all runs smoothly for you. You must be so anxious!!!

Lenny - I totally understand about the dumb comments. I have gone from 47kg to 65kg in 20 weeks and I am getting dumb a** comments all the time. We have 52 stairs at home and people (friends and family) are asking me how I get up and down them already!!!! Im short so I guess I look bigger, but in hindsight 65kg is a good weight for anyone to have normally!!!!!

My biggest dumb comments:- went to Sister In Laws last Sunday morning to call in and say Hi. They had gone into the city for Valentines Day and niece and nephew were home alone (19 & 17). Niece was saying how fantastic I looked and that I had a "Little Bump". We said our hello's then left to go to Mother In Laws.
By the time we got there we received 7 phone calls regarding my "excessive weight gain" and was I doing okay and that I should back off on the sugar. Niece had called everyone and told them how huge I was yet to my face I was little. Left mother in laws crying as family started to arrive to "check me out". MIL was very supportive and said I should try to keep the weight on as I look healthy. That was sweet and unexpected.

We cant win. If we put the weight on, its bad, if we dont put it on, its bad. Everyone's an expert. I now know who to stay away from when I need advice. Not to mention that I cry at simple things now.

Satya - very strange temp. I guess that's why she's a temp. Maybe with her stupid comments no-one has obviously asked her to stay on permanently in any job. My best friend gives me comments like that. I told her that after this one, I will have another tfr in 6mths. She told me that at my age I should just be thinking of getting through this one before I even think that I could make it to the next one. That sliced me right down the middle. With friends like that........

Ltl Panda - Thinking of you and bubs and hoping that you are settling into this new chapter of your life easily. I am sure you are all basking in happiness!

Me - I awoke so exhausted this morning. I dreamt I was "sugar soaping" the walls in the kitchen by hand and sometimes with a broom, its such a hard job. I think I am nesting in my sleep already. The dreams I have been having are crazy. I got up and checked the walls out. Our kitchen walls are spotless and I wondered if I had actually gotten up and sugar soaped or if it was a dream. Had a giggle and ate my pancakes. Spending the day at home today, its so beautiful again.

Take Care,

Tracey

[onthefly]

Wow, some people, huh?! I hope these dumb comments are isolated incidents and don't happen all the time. Tracey - sorry, laughed at your neice. She'll get hers one day!

I may have gained heaps of weight, but I really love my preggy body, well the belly mostly. I hope you ladies all love your bodies too, big or small - pregnant women look great!

Lenny - these things can all happen very quickly. Dr says it looks promising, but he's seen women engage early and have all the signs, and then go over. so it doesn't really mean anything. Sadly it is random and impossible to predict. But then again, maybe that's a really good thing, y'know?

Kimbe - your mum sounds really together with good advice.

Met with our doula again today, and backup doula. Had a good chat about all sorts of things. She also critiqued my nappies - no good, apparently! but it's good to get some advice. She has also suggested a sewing date to make some up, which would be good.

Been getting cramps lately. This is how demented my brain has become - I actually had the thought 'hmmm, period must be coming....' I'd really like my brain back

[nic]

kimbe, your mum sounds so lovely, what beautiful advice she gave you.

Tracey, unbelievable what your niece said to you. I'd take comfort in the fact that she will be pregnant one day and you can tell her how HUGE she is lol. I had a giggle about you nesting in your dreams.

As for everyone getting comments about their size, I've started to tell people when they looked shocked at how 'small' I am for halfway, that I am having a HAT pregnancy. When they look all confused I tell them that all my weight gain is going to my Hips - Ar$e and Thighs! My mum laughed and said she is still having that pregnancy symptom now.

Anyway, just wanted to drop in quickly to see how everyone is, sorry for not replying to all you girls. We are off tomorrow for our 2nd OB visit, so will be home sometime Tuesday. Will try to update in the next few days.

Nic

[mako]

Hi Girls.

I've just read all your stories about rude or strange comments. I just can't believe that people think it is ok to make dumb comments or should I say rude comments. All I can say is that it really doesn't matter how little or how much weight you put on during pregnancy, all that matters is that you are ok and bub is ok
I remember so many people told me in the 1st and 2nd tri to be carefull about what I ate as if I put on too much weight it would be too hard to loose after I had bub. And then during my 3rd tri sooooo many people were telling me how tiny I was. Honestly you can't win either way I was always gobsmacked hearing these types of comments especially from strangers. What gives them the right to make these comments?????

KImbe What a lovely thing for your mum to say to you.

Nic All the best for your Ob appointment.

Hi to you all. Won't be too long until there will be some more B/A's in here. Can't wait.

Sage is doing really well.He's been sleeping really well since I've been putting him in his Grobag. He now sleeps upto 9 hours during the night He's getting his 1st tooth atm which is causing him some grief. He is also going for his 4 month needles today. Oh yeh the feeding has improved so much now and I'm loving it.Took almost 3.5 months to get it sorted but all is good now

Take care.

[DJTTC]

Just a quick one to all you beautiful ladies who are about to have their little bubbas, good luck - can't wait to hear all about your births.

Selfish little post from me - Jenna slept the whole night last night, that's right the whole entire complete night.
I am floating on air atm!!!
Let's just hope it continues.

Jo - 28
Dh - 34

[kimbe]

Nic - DH sounds really into the shopping which is lovely. My DH has come with me for purchases but has just agreed with anything i've suggested rather than taking any 'lead' role in decision making.

Lis - I didn't realise Airlie Beach was so isolated! Try not to stress about the cot just yet, whatever you get will be great and if sold in one of the stores it will cover Australian Safety Standards which is the main thing right?! I was in 2 worlds about car seats, we then bought one but it was on layby and the more i thought about it the more i hated it, questioning if it was the right one. Now it's home and in the car i look at it and know that it is everything bub needs to travel safely which is the main thing.

Satya - i get you on the heartburn, mine is really irregular i just can't pick it. I'm not into curries as such but had spicy pepper bolognese last night with no effect, however i'll get it after a simple steak and chips. How frustrating is it. I have found Rennie tab's (just 1) really help when it gets bad.

Well, yesterday was full of old wives tales for me...other than the spicy dinner, i drank a few raspberry leaf teas, fumigated the house with clary sage oil and to top it off, DTD. At this stage, they don't appear to have been effective - i've had an increase in braxton hicks and some mild irregular cramping this morning but that's probably simple indigestion LOL

Have a nice day everyone

[Lenny]

Nic -yay on the boy! I'm glad your ob isn't like mine in terms of time keeping - I have now taken to ringing before hand to see how late he is running - then adding 15mins to that! Yesterday we waited an hour - and that was after turning up 20mins after the appt time anyway!

TL - hehehe, for most of the population DTD is what got them pg in the first place. But, then there are some of us who missed that fun bit and went for the 'doctor-assisted' preganancy!

Kimbe - keep on with the positive thinking, and well done on teas and DTD! Don't tell my DH - he's suffering through the drought!

Well, it appears poor little bugsy's not having much fun at the moment. I have low amniotic fluid levels (6). 5 is considered too low apparently, so still borderline. He has not grown much in the last 4 weeks, although the blood flow through the cord is perfectly fine for now. Low fluid can mean added pressure on the cord, or that he accidently damages the cord himself, as there isn't much cushioning. It's nothing i've done wrong (thankfully). Another scan next week to check progress. I got told to rest - hmmm, what's that? I'm not good at that! Down to 3 days work a week - but i seem to be even more busy when i am at home!

Hope everyone else is keeping well!
Jo