ladies,

I thought I'd better jump in now re a BALTTTC thread. This suggestion has been made to the moderators on a few occasions previously, the first being when I used to inhabit this thread myself, not long after it was first started.

One of the reasons we don't have a baby buddies for LTers is that if we did one for you, we would have to for the Clomid girls, the M/C girls, the Late Loss girls... etc. You get my point.

Another reason is that we do believe, esp the mods who have been LTers before, that an LT mum has no different challenges than a mum who conceives naturally, once baby arrives. While you may not have mixed with the regular belly buddies during your pg because of the unique issues associated with being a pg LTer, we believe it's the right time to assimilate with your respective baby buddies group after the birth, as it becomes less about you and more about your baby in your posts. This is the time when you should be exposed to mums of all shapes, sizes and circumstance, as well as be able to talk to mums who have babies of the same age as yours. In a BALTTTC thread, you would have mums of babies of different ages, and this serves no real purpose except to keep you together.

We know it's hard to leave those familiar to you behind. I kept in touch with the people who were here with me for a long time after we all had our babies, and I often popped in to post here and there (as you girls sometimes do in the LTTTC forums) but in time you do move on. There is support for you out there once your baby arrives, and yes, even more friends to make. It may seem like we're being arbitrary in our decision but it's been discussed many times before, and we agree that we won't start baby buddy groups that extend from specific forums, mainly for the reasons stated above.

If anyone would like to discuss this more, please do email me about it. My email address is sushee@bellybelly.com.au