Why do LTTTCers seem to prefer a c/s?

[Jennifer13]

Bec, it is so good to hear that women who conceive the natural way also tend to feel the same sorts of pressures. You have just reduced the "I am an infertile freak" feeling by many, many times.

Could it be something so simple as ALL women need to be more honest about how pregnancy, birth and parenting effects them so that LTers get a better idea that what they are feeling is NORMAL, even though it may be magnified somewhat?

Oh boy, BW, you don't need to feel 'different', like Bec our DD was a complete accident and because I 'chose' to have her, my DP wouldn't hear a word of complaint then (and still to some extent now) because it was my 'choice' to be a mother. Like he was somehow just carried along in this tidal wave of parenthood with no say!

Can I just say, despite having suffered depression in the past, despite an emotionally very difficult unplanned pg (altho not physically), the birth I did not want, a relationship that's still troubled, etc, etc (I'm sure you can insert your own difficulties into a list like this!) it did not make me an inadequate mother who couldn't cope. Everyone has difficulty coping sometimes for their own reasons. I didn't have trouble coping because I've had depression in the past, I had trouble coping because it's damned hard work (largely unappreciated and not supported enough!). I didn't resent being called upon by my baby when I really just wanted to sleep (and I had no right to complain apparently, since mostly she slept well) because we didn't bond immediately after birth. I resented being woken up because I quite like my sleep and I'm kinda used to it! Plus, I don't operate well when I'm tired.

It IS the same for everyone, but for LTTTCers I would imagine there's that extra layer of guilt (internal and external) that the reality of your dream should always be perfect, and if it's not, is it you?

But it'd be kinda like saying you waited 25 years to meet your husband and you have no right to complain when he annoys the ***** out of you for behaving in what might be a completely normal way for him/a man, but annoying nonetheless!