Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ July 2010

[Hope.Positive.Love]

Ferrals: I agree as well - whatever you and DH need to do to get through the next 3 weeks, you do it! We're here for you no matter what...

Dory: My DP read your post as well and it made him understand so much better what was going on in my head. Honestly, you have been a god send in my pregnancy when it comes to my and DP sometimes it's hard for me to explain how/why I'm feeling a certain way, having him read it from another womans perspective really helps us get through the tough times....

Milly5: I am sooooo jealous that you are almost finished work, I have 8 working days til I'm done - 10th of Sept is my last day, naughty of me though - one MW has suggested that I may even go as early as the 11th of Sept - whoops... I'm still going strong though, only working 3days a week..... so looking forward to it....

AFM: My girlfriend suprised me and DH with a visit to Precious Previews - 4D Imaging as the other half to our Baby Shower Present.. I am so very happy to say SHE is definately a SHE.. She has the chubbiest cheeks EVER!! and big plump lips like her Daddy... It just made things so much easier for me to think more positive after we saw her, the woman who did the ultrsound also suggested she may come sooner than her Sept 24 due date.... so lets hope she comes AFTER the 10th, I'll be happy with that - it's not too far away at all....

[angelfish]

Hopepostivelove-your so lucky to have seen your healthy baby girl during the 4-d scan.

Milly5 - sometimes the name comes to you when you see your baby for the frist time. sometimes its very hard to agree on a name but it will come natural.

Dory- happy to see that you only have a month left. I know it must seem like an enternity. You have been one of the voices of reason when i have been so franic just wanted to say thankyou.

I have hid under a rock during this trip many times. Sometimes its a very safe place

My camping trip went by great, we were getting day after day here of hot weather but were we went camping it was much cooler which is good becosue as soon as i feel pg i could not stand the heat. When we got back home we must have brought the cooler weather back. Its looks like fall here which is my favorite seson. But i have come down with a slight cold which i think i got from my b/f children becosue one or the other is sick.

A bit a of a rant i know that i have complained about his children but i hosently love his children to death. His youngest one in the past has done this but not as bad as what she was doing this trip. She gets upset over everything but now she starts to hostly cry and say " i cant do anything right at all" and no one can comfort her. Her mom when she was with my b/f was very emotional abusive towards him. I did the best i could to try to help but nothing would work. she is now 9 any ideas?

I wish that the doubt and the worry would go away. I am so worried that i am not going to be able to bring this one home. I have already made up my mind being 33 and trying for so long that i will not try again if something goes wrong.

[JennaJayen]

Hi guys, thought it was about time I joined this group. Spent a bit of time in the TTC one a few months ago, but just couldn't keep up and it made me so depressed knowing how many of us were struggling to get preg and stay preg.

I don't know how often I'll be in, but I'll try my hardest to stick around.

A bit about me:

I have a 20month old DS, and prior to having him I lost 4 precious angels, all before 8wks.
This year I have lost another 2 angels, both before 6wks, and now I am at 9wks 1d! So technically I'm past my "safe" mark, but I won't feel safe until I get past 20wks.

This pregnancy is also high risk for me as I have cephalo-pelvic disproportion, had a c-section with DS, braxton hicks that start early (before 16wks) and pretend to be real labour, and also because of the early losses.
We have already had 2 scares with this pregnancy - one at approx 6wks where I slipped in the bath which set off a round of cramping, and again last weekend where had a bit of brown spotting one morning and was cramping constantly for 3 weeks prior and all weekend. Thankfully an ultrasound showed that everything was going well and bub was developing/growing normally.

So anyway, enough about me. I look forward to geting to know you all and sharing this amazing and scary journe with you all!

[Mum22]

Hi, I'm 5 weeks pregnant with bub no3 (or 4w 4 days pregnant if going off ovulation) I had a chemical pregnancy last month. Feel a little stressed out about the whole pregnancy thing and whether it will continue hence the going off ovulation as dont want to get too excited and ahead of myself.
Had a blood test last thurs showed levels 35 and monday (4days later) levels were 347 so I at least have that to be hopeful about.
Not quite ready for a BB group, feeling it may just jinx me so felt this may be where I belong for now.
Hope you dont mind me joining your thread.

[ferrals5]

Thanks girls you are all my life lines.

Tegam-words of wisdom now if only i can put them into action.
I do like the rock idea lol.

Angelfish-woohoo! on bubs moving.

Dory-awww not long and you will be holding you sweet tiny bundle in your arms.

Milly-they only saw one baby but the doc didnt really look he just did a quick scan for a HB and dating and sent us on our way i hope there is only one healthy one in there.
There has been plenty of prego porn in my house but nothing extrodinary to post about lol not yet anyway.
And so close for you a name will come to you when you look into your babies eyes.

Hope.positive.love-what a lovely thing your friend did.

Jennajayen-welcome there a a lot of us that have very real concerns with our pregnancies so you are not alone there.

Mum22-welcome to you also looking forward to get to know you and jennajayen.

AFM-I have read what everyone has said you are all so good to me complaining and worrying all the time.
I was sitting at work going over in my mind what the geneticist said to me the last time i spoke to him you have a 3 in 4 chance that this baby will be normal than it hit home we had a 3 in 4 chance that Abbi would have been normal and she wasnt and then we had a 3 in 4 chance that our PDG IVF embryo would have tested normal and it didnt WTF!
With the odd's suposedly in our favour 75% for a good outcome why is it we were unlucky twice so i got four 5 cent pieces and put a dot of liquid paper on one of them and turned them over so i couldnt see it and mixed them around the one with the dot was a sick baby and the other 3 were normal babies then i went about mixing them around and picking one each time i picked a healthy one out of 10 goes i only picked the one with the dot once so when you have 3 chances out of 4 to get a healthy one how is it we got the bad one twice in real life is our bad gene so strong it just over powers the good ones i am so stressed the odds are on our side but so far have failed us twice will it be 3rd time lucky.
God what i would give for some answers

[Tegam]

Thanks girls you are all my life lines.

Tegam-words of wisdom now if only i can put them into action.
I do like the rock idea lol.

Angelfish-woohoo! on bubs moving.

Dory-awww not long and you will be holding you sweet tiny bundle in your arms.

Milly-they only saw one baby but the doc didnt really look he just did a quick scan for a HB and dating and sent us on our way i hope there is only one healthy one in there.
There has been plenty of prego porn in my house but nothing extrodinary to post about lol not yet anyway.
And so close for you a name will come to you when you look into your babies eyes.

Hope.positive.love-what a lovely thing your friend did.

Jennajayen-welcome there a a lot of us that have very real concerns with our pregnancies so you are not alone there.

Mum22-welcome to you also looking forward to get to know you and jennajayen.

AFM-I have read what everyone has said you are all so good to me complaining and worrying all the time.
I was sitting at work going over in my mind what the geneticist said to me the last time i spoke to him you have a 3 in 4 chance that this baby will be normal than it hit home we had a 3 in 4 chance that Abbi would have been normal and she wasnt and then we had a 3 in 4 chance that our PDG IVF embryo would have tested normal and it didnt WTF!
With the odd's suposedly in our favour 75% for a good outcome why is it we were unlucky twice so i got four 5 cent pieces and put a dot of liquid paper on one of them and turned them over so i couldnt see it and mixed them around the one with the dot was a sick baby and the other 3 were normal babies then i went about mixing them around and picking one each time i picked a healthy one out of 10 goes i only picked the one with the dot once so when you have 3 chances out of 4 to get a healthy one how is it we got the bad one twice in real life is our bad gene so strong it just over powers the good ones i am so stressed the odds are on our side but so far have failed us twice will it be 3rd time lucky.
God what i would give for some answers

Sadly 1:4 pregnancies will end in MC the odds dont work that if you have had three MC all will be ok Math and statistic suck more now days than they did in high school hey!

I know what you mean about 1:4 but for you its more.... I had a 1:200000 chance of having my ectopic! Gee woofreakinghoo, do i win something. What a dumb thing to say to someone! I have had 5pregnancies so it was 1:5 for me. I have had 6 pregnancies now and 2 have ended badly and this one isnt earthside so thats 1:3! I HATE being labled and i HATE odds. You can go stick them up your bum Dr!

Anyway a bit of a pointless rant

Big hugs to you and hello to all the new girls!

[KitFaerie]

Ferrals: Stats suck, when I lost Splat I was thinking of all the other women in the world who got good news at their scan, and wondering why I had to be in the 40% who didn't. I was also thinking that if I could just get a bubba with a heartbeat then oh how relaxed I would be! Now I've got Tiger kicking away and I still feel very nervous and very aware of odds regarding loss (research is not always a good thing!). You've had some hugely crappy luck hun, but if 100 women were in your position then 75 of them would be walking away with healthy babies, I think your in the 75 this time. You'll be taking a gorgeous healthy baby home. (and it's just a fear, not a certainty)

MsKara: Funny how awesome advice is so much easier to give than take? Lol! Congrats on 9 weeks babe, every day is a step closer and everyday the odds get better (but odds can bugger off anyway).

Jenna Jayen: Awesome numbers! Well done hon, I'm so glad to see you in here, I remember you from my first posts in TTC 1-6 months! Eep, so long ago!

Mum22: I was 16 or so weeks before I joined a BB group, and 12 weeks before I managed to post here! The computer and your uterus have no secret communication going on, and nothing bad will happen if you post! Trust me, I speak from experience! Very glad to have another escapee here

Milly5: Eeeeee! So close now! Can't wait to hear your BA!

Angelfish: Sorry it's been stressful xo

HPL: That's such a sweet present, glad you got to see your bubba again!

AFM: After trying so hard to get Tiger in there I'm slowly realising that one way or another he has to come out! I'm still scared about what could go wrong, but in an effort to get to know my boy and enjoy my pregnancy - I made these lists - these are the things Tiger likes: Apples (he kicks away super happy 5 minutes after I eat one), the sound of DH's voice (he does somersaults when DH comes home and starts talking), the election campaign (seriously, was watching it Sat night before it became clear that it was gonna take weeks and weeks to resolve and he was dancing away in there!), 5 am (he loooooves 5 am, wakes me up every morning! Me, not such a big fan). Things he doesn't like: George (my furbaby) kneading him, when George settles down to sleep I usually get a big kick or two, like he's checking the mean cat is gone, lol, DH trying to feel kicks just after I've said ''Oooh he's kicking!'' (he gets all quiet and as soon as DH moves his hand, BAM, back to kickers) and he doesn't like Cows. I know this because when I had MS there was a cadbury ad of a cow playing soccer or something and as soon as it came on I'd wanna hurl, even now when I look at cows/cow prints I feel a bit sick. So, Tiger, not a fan of cows.

This may not be the most scientifically created list, but I've decided it's all true, and I'm sticking to it!

[JennaJayen]

Mum22, welcome to the group

Ferrals - Oh darl, you're having such a hard time at the moment *hugs* I remember my shock when they told me my first baby wouldn't live past birth... No 17 year old should ever be told that, and I thought it was hard for me then. You have the harder time of it, but I have a feeling deep down that everything will be ok for you. This was my 3rd time lucky, and it will be your 3rd time lucky too!
You can tell I'm trying to remain positive here, too many things go through your mind when you're told early on that you're *this* far away from being put on bed rest before you even reach 10wks, so I have to stay positive or I'd go crazy! On the upside, so far it's working

Try not to stress too much abou your levels, they look really good to me
With this pregnancy my levels were 29 at my first BT exactly on 5wks from LMP (corrected dates were 4wk 1d according to dating scan), and at my second one exactly 14 days later they were 15,701.
My m/c in January was a chemical as well, really stressed me out when I got preg again in March, and when that ended too I just didn't think I'd ever be able to carry another baby.
My hubby says that sometimes these things happen for a reason, either because you're not ready or your body wasn't quite ready yet even if you were, and that you are stronger than before because of what you have been through. It has given you the strength to keep going even when you're ready to give in and when you're hurting more than anything, and even when you're scared.

hth's
Sending lots of sticky vibes your way!

[MsKara]

ferrals: I've been lurking but I really had to post. It's really ok to freak out, but you have to remember that, like the coin flipping, there is just a 25% chance that things won't be ok. I have a disease in my wrist that only affects 1 in 250 000 people (usually to gymnasts and tradies that use jackhammers etc), yet it happened to me for no particular reason. No one can explain why and no one knows why my left wrist is perfectly fine either but it's been 10yrs and I have no indication of any issues with it. Sometimes things just happen, and we'll never know why, but we can't let the fear of it happening again control us. Like Kit said, it's a FEAR not a certainty. We can only deal with what has happened, and so far you have a perfectly healthy baby that, to all indications, is growing very well.

Wow... I should really swallow my own pill! I've reading all the posts but lurking because even though everything is going well I still haven't made it past 10 weeks and I'm still scared I will lose this one as well.