sammy2149 - go easy on him! saying a guy is selfish because of a lack of intimacy (which does come in many different levels) is too harsh. His Dp has been going through a lot (she is in my due date group ) but there are two people invovled here not just his DP.

Women tend to be more selfish during their pregnancies then most of their DP or DH because we get so focused on ourselves and whats happening with our bodies and how we're feeling and what we want, its very easy to forget about how the other person in the relationship is feeling.

I am no angel and have been so very selfish in every aspect during the past 19 weeks it took someone saying the above to me to realise that without him, bub wouldn't even be here and that I should cut him some slack. Ever since we have had the best relationship its all give and take.


Trav - glad to hear you have chatted, she does seem to have a lot on her plate though from the sound of her last post, you have been doing a great job in supporting her so here is to you Keep up the good work it can't be easy for her especially with the murmer and the change in her shifts so now that i have finally pieced the puzzle together, I will suggest to you what I suggested to her, find some time, get yourselves booked into a massage, find a nice place to stay, dine out somewhere special and take some time out from 'Simon Says' and treat yourselves, you've both been through a lot and need some rest and relaxation and you never know just having a break from everything could be just what the dr ordered

ETA - I will not tell her to name bubba Gage because thats one of my names :P