Crappy Situation With Unborn Baby's Father Already (VENT/HELP)

[emc2]

I always thought it was wrong to not let the father be around, but looking at this situation from a third party's eyes it is probably for the best. If he wants to come back and swears he's changed, it would probably be temporary. Just so weird to make a decision as big as we did and then him to renegg once the baby was already growing.

EMC2, does the father have anything to do with your baby now? If not, how did it end?

With my ex it has always been a pattern of behaviour, and he has a drinking problem. So he would be fine for a couple of weeks but then emotionally and verbally abusive, then I would try and break things off, and then he would say but it's all been some misunderstanding, don't leave kind of deal.

So as he wouldn't let me break it off, I used the pregnancy as a time to get to know him and his family. And his parents are quite nice people. I used it as a time to see if he would change, but then I wasn't living with him so I didn't have to answer the phone or put up with him to an extreme point.

How it ended was baby ended up being a footling breech. I had moved temporarily in with my parents and yes well we could have both died. Then ex wasnt much help in hospital, and we were a bit neglected by staff.

To cut a long story short two weeks later after more crap from him, everyone else being lovely to me, I had filled in the child support form as being CSA collect and he then took this as me breaking up with him and he was publicly humiliated by this blah blah blah. I was so relieved.

He's been a right PIA with organising visits but again I have stood my ground, and he will be visiting with his father twice a week for two hours, and I will go for a walk or do chores for part of that time.

Sorry that isn't very detailed, bubby is due for a feed.