I was in a similar-ish situation when I got pg 6 months into my relationship with DP. It wasn't planned, nor was it prevented. Once the news had sunk in, he FREAKED OUT. Screamed, yelled, told me to get an abortion. I refused, and when he finally gave me his support I sadly miscarried.

I know the fear you're feeling. The fear that your baby won't know his/her daddy. But you know what? Families come in all different shapes and sizes. Not having a present father figure won't mean your baby won't belong to a family. If he's acting this way now (and has become violent so suddenly) do you really want your child to look up to a man like that? Would he even be a valuable contributor to your child's life? Or just the source of heartache.

I didn't want to come in here and tell you to forget about him, yet that's how this post has sounded. Unfortunately I can't give you the answers, only my perspective. If a man would treat you this way when you're pregnant with his baby....................................... you're in trouble. This isn't going to be what you want to hear, but I'm not about band-aid solutions and empty 'there there's'. You're right, this situation is el-crappo. All you can do is take it one day at a time. Make it clear you won't accept violence and aggression, and give him the option of being the man he said he was in the beginning. The choice is his.

Someone wise once said not to waste my love on someone who clearly doesn't love me in return. No man who loves you will ever lay a hand on you in anger. Or call you the C word. I'm so sorry you're stuck in a tough situation.