Hi all,

Newbie here... not really keen to post personal stuff on the internet but right now I'm pretty confused and would love some advice from perhaps the women who have been through anything like this or are wise on what to do in this el crappo situation.

I'm about 9-10 weeks pregnant, this baby is planned by both of us (Mummy & Daddy) with the understanding that he would have as much involvement as he wanted to give and we were not in a committed relationship but living together for a couple of months.

I was honest with him right from the start, saying I wanted to be a Mummy and there wasn't much time as I have a really low AMH level when I was tested last year and I wanted him to be the Daddy and thought he'd be good at it and the situation between us would work. (Turns out after all the fertility specialists I paid a fortune for last year were all full of scary results and I got pregnant naturally on the first try with him). I feel it's a miracle, meant to be.

A bit over a week ago, he came home drunk, pushed me in the stomach asking me to consider an abortion, saying I was only after his money and I tricked him and stole his sperm and I'm a liar (I know there are always two sides to a story, but I did nothing to trigger this, the only thing I can think of that set him off to freak-out was I told him two days earlier that the baby was doing fine and I saw the heartbeart on U/S). He then went on to text me while he was at work a few days later and told me to get out of the house and move out by the time he got home and called me the C word. This is a side of him I didn't recognise!! I got the hell out of there! I gave him a week to cool off and texted him and he was still just as angry and nasty and said he doesn't want anything to do with me and has not apologised at all about kicking me out on the street and pushing me when I'm pregnant with his child. I have not heard from him since.

I know there are probably some women out there (and he may have even experienced one?) that would lie to get pregnant when they really wanted a baby, but I was only ever open, honest and sincere with him and as I was falling in love with him, considered his feelings in this and care about him

He has even been *****ing about me to my own friends even though I've done nothing wrong!!!

I want to work things out with him (obviously), but I don't know where to start? I don't want his child support money. I was raised by my Dad who fought to get me and my sister and had to pay child support and go broke so I don't think that is fair. And I wanted my child to have a Daddy and belong to a family, hence why I didn't got the sperm donor route. I'm sad that at this stage he already seems like a deadbeat, and I did want him involved as the Daddy to teach bubby stuff and spread the love around but I just couldn't admit it for fear of being disappointed/hurt.

What do I do?

Sorry I've written a novel.

Thanks
Mummy-To-Be