Welcome! I fell preg at 17 and had DD at 18 so I know how hard it can be being a young mother, let alone a single young mother. About finding yourself; you will discover many things about yourself from being a mother. It changes you forever. I had no idea that I had the capacity to love someone as much as I love my daughter. Nothing and no one could EVER compare, nothing else really matters, whenever I feel awful I think of how lucky I am to have a beautiful, healthy daughter. Having her has given me a whole new perspective on what it means to me a human being, a woman, a mother. So don't worry about not knowing yourself yet! Your baby will not only help you discover who you are, he will fundamentally change who you are (for the better!).