Kirsty, when I was 7 I asked for a drink at my mum's friend's house (we were there about 3 hours). I got such a telling off for being rude that I will now not drink all day rather than ask for a drink!

But if someone offers me a drink or makes me one, I still say "thank you very much". This from a woman who had an anxiety attack from shyness on Monday. There are such things as manners!

And yes, I'd also tell DSS that his girrlfriend isn't to go in his bedroom - personally, I'd not be happy having a teenage couple doing bedroom/sleepover things in my house, you may not be the same but I'd really be uncomfortable with it.