Ali, I love your suggestion on letting her server up her own dinner. Because its just me and her at home she plays an active role in chosing the food, but then I do the rest. She loves doing grown up things like serving up the food but usually I don't let her at dinner time. I'll definately try that one. The problem with dinner is that even when i let her pick something she wants, she still doesnt eat it when its cooked! She wanted hotdogs last night. Quick and easy and not exactly nutritional but she'd got back late from dad's and it was quick and easy. She loves hotdogs but wouldn't eat it as usual. Last nights excuse was that it was 'too spicy' which is so obviously wasn't!
As for the getting dressed thing, i let her pick her clothes the night before and we put them on the heater. I tell her that if she gets dressed without getting upset she can wear her clothes. If she gets upset and won't get dressed then I go and pick clothes and she has to wear them. She hates when that happenens, and i follow it through everytime. Its like the second she gets a little stressed out or upset all reason flies out the window and doesn't return until i've lost it and shes lost it and i end up smacking her.
I do the same when we go out and she chucks a tantrum. I say to her that she can either stop now and we can keep riding the bikes or i'll take her home. As soon as i say something like that she cracks up even more. So i do take her home, but in the process i get so angry myself that yet another fun day has been ruined by her tantrums.
Monnie, Anything that involves less talk and debate and esspecially less emotion is definatley something i'll try! I'm sick of us both getting so worked up.
Odette, Ashlea's diet is usually pretty good as I'm a single mum and not working at the moment until ashlea starts school. Because of this reason the food budget it pretty tight and the only snack foods i buy is for kinder which is mainly fresh fruit etc. She eats wholemeal bread as i've found white bread sends her nuts. She only drinks water unless its a special occasion. I know if she eats sugar or lollies she'll go nuts too so we avoid that as much as possible. Is there any common additives that seem to send kids off?? I wouldn't even know where to start to see if there is anything that might be triggering her.
I like the point you made about the sugar levels dropping, I'm hypoglycemic and all my family can pick if i havent been eating right or enough as i turn nasty! My sis comes up to me when i'm grumpy and tells me to eat a pear. Its something i haven't thought of, but will start looking out for it.
Her main triggers are getting dresssed, and we have the most problems in the morning. I also noticed that as soon as she gets a little tired she is impossible. She still has a rest most days (she turned 5 last week) and I wonder how she will cope at school next year with such a big day.
This morning we've had a great morning, no tantrums or anything, but she also hasn't had to get dressed yet as my nephew is alseep in her room! We'll see how she goes
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