Yesterday morning when she got up, the first thing i did was give her 2 kalm kids vitamins. I don't know weather they helped with the 'calmer' day we had, meaning no tantrums and a much more reasonable child, but has anyone else tried these with their kids and noticed any difference?

We had an easy morning again today, except that it usually is easy when its hot because skirts and sandals aren't usually an issue. Its pants and socks and runners that are.

As for the power struggle, i completely agree there and know exactly what you mean Lucy and Cai. Ashlea is incredibly stubborn and pig headed and hot tempered, she reminds me of myself waaaayyyy too much. The one thing with her is that I refuse to give in and let her have her way, i've always been like that with her. My problem is tryinbg to stay calm myself through it, and obviously when i lose my cool, Ashlea bounces off that and reacts the same, so I realise half the problem is my fault at times for not being more patient. I've been making the hugest effort the past few days to try and stay calmer and it does seem to be helping also.

The getting dressed race didn't happen this morning because she got dressed while i was in the shower! Like i said, summer is alot easier because she doesnt mind summer clothes. Her clothes isn't doesn't seem to be about power, more about her being a pedantic little nut! She hates clothes if they aren't ironed to perfection. She hates frills and fancy things. She hates layers of clothes, but yet will wear a t-shirt no problem, but hates a long sleeved top if it doesn't have a singlet underneath it. The t-shirt and long sleeved top could be exactly the same except one has long sleeves and she still HAS to have a singlet under the long sleeved. She wont wear socks if the toe line isn't exactly straight across her toes and the heel isn't sitting perfectly flat on her heel.
Oh, and she wont sit on a picnic rug if there is any kind of crease in it or if a corner id folded over. Pedantic i tell you, I was almost convinved she had Obsessive compulsive dissorder.

Thanks again for all your suggestions