Thanks again for your replies

Nickel, i despise ironing and I rarely EVER do except i can't stand jeans not ironed. Ashlea could tell me her clothes aren't ironed even if they;d just come back from the dry cleaners perfectly streamed!!! I don't give into her wanting clothes ironed else she wouldnt put a thing on ever unless she'd watched me iron it first!

Suprisingly, since the post the other day when i was going insane, she's been a perfect angel. After writing the post and on the verge of a meltdown we had a big chat about stuff and she was saying 'but i have been good or I will be good' I explained that it never lasts, shes good when she wants something blah blah blah. we talked calmly together for a good half hour and she's been great since. Listening, no tantrums, helping clean, getting dressed etc.

When she's being good she is the most well spoken, well mannered, polite kind caring princess. When she's not shes a monster!

I definatley want to still see someone, clinical psychologist etc cause I know it is her temperamant and behaviour and it isn't all fixed cause of her good behaviour for a few days.

Nickel, Ashlea always hates jackets in winter too. All the other kids were all rugged up and ash was in a thin long sleeved top. i understand completey!