Tara, Thankyou SO SO much for you post and insight. To hear someone who actually *HAS* sensory processing issues makes me think that after all this time i know its not just in my head. Try explaining to a doc or person who sees a perfect angel sitting there just what happens when its time to get dressed. Most people pass it off as a 'kid' thing.

I was certain it had to do with sensory processing and was actualy suprised when the paed. told me she was fine after us discussing everything for so long. To me, having worked with so many kids for so many years, i knew it wasn't 'normal behaviour'

I agree totally about the power struggle, although it may not have started as one cause of the age thing, it may have turned into one.

Thankyou so much for yu post, its really helped