Nickel, Ashy's dad (not ex husband, i was never silly enough to marry him, and ex idiot is much more appropraite anyway!) doesn't really know how to handle it, but she definately does it for him too, and grandparents etc. Her dad doens't spend enough time with her cause he lives 3 hours away, i moved away from him, but there are some issues with us going up there at the moment so he onle comes down every 3 weeks or so.
She tells me when we talk about the clothes that it 'does feel right and it feels horrible and its irritating. She hates the feel of 3/4 pants on her legs, she doesnt mind it at her ankles though' We always sit down after a meltdown when we are both calm and talk about what happened.
She is very anal and pedantic about how things should be and has a short fuse for when things go wrong (god i wonder where she gets that from!)
It can't be the washing power cause i change that all the time. Its more particular clothes, eg anything 3/4 lenght, there are socks she likes and socks she hates, i dont know what the diff is between them, but she does. some shoes are okay with socks, but not stockings, other shoes she will wear with stockings and others not with socks at all. There must be something in it though because once she has decided that 'these shoes aren't ok to wear with stocking' she never ever forgets it
I still strongly believe its something to do with sensory processing. I was also talking to Danni about how i've been at bit flat for a few weeks and its always harder then cause i'm not in the right head space to deal with it, so rather than being able to stop the meltdowns before they get out of control, i meltdown too! Feeling a bit better now and we've had a few good days which is nice
yeah it really does sound like sensory processing thing - thank god it's a real thing and someone who actually posts it has it.
and you so hang in there! Remember when everyone melts down that you are more than entitled to, as you doing are doing the job of two parents. So no guilt there, it's always harder to be patient and realistic about things when one is tired, I've handed discipline/decisions about my oldest DD to my DH today, as we've been arguing all day (my DD and me), as soon as I said "That's nice, but ask Daddy he's in charge of you today" she went off and has been playing beautifully every since... WTF! AAAAAH!
Anyway, very keen to see what happens and how you go with the whole sensory thing, remember you know your daughter best and if some practitioner doesn't listen to you, ifyou can get another one!
I just asked re. ex-idiot to see if it was a "consistent" or non-environmental thing. It definitely sounds like it's how the clothes feel whatever her reasons.
Reading between the lines, she does sound great though! I just know her and my eldest would have a ball together!
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