Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08 #2

[jen805]

LJ--So sorry about your BFN! Sounds like it could still be a little early, though, so don't give up hope yet! Would hate to see you take a break when I'm just getting to know you, but I know we all do what we have to do to get through. Don't want to get your hopes up, but your symptoms do sound very promising! Good luck, hun, you're in my

[ElleJay]

Thanks heaps Jen!
My BBs haven't hurt this much since the last time I was pg. And when I'm due for AF, only one of my bbs hurts on the side, and it's both this time.. I'm ing so very hard every night, but I dunno if I feel positive enough. I'll test tomorrow (today) with one of my early ones I get from the post office (make sure I hold onto my pee beforehand!)

[jen805]

LJ--Good luck with the testing! I'll be waiting in anticipation for your results! Got my for you!

[ElleJay]

Thanks Jen! I think I might just PIAC and then go to the post office and collect them (I had ordered them online and wasn't home when they came so I have to collect them from the post office) and hopefully get home to a
It's hard, because I've tested so much and seen sooooo many flashing back at me. I'm looking at some FF charts that are pregnancy charts, and the BFPs range from 8DPO to 13DPO to 18DPO so I guess I shouldn't give up yet.
It was stupid of me to test with a test that says 'Shouldn't be used until after 4 days before AF is due' and even if I did test with it, it needs to be FMU! Silly silly me!
It's nice to be able to talk to someone at this time Jen

[jen805]

LJ--I know, it's so hard seeing those BFN's! I saw 3 last month! On a lot of tests I don't think FMU is necessary, but you should feel better about using the one that says to wait until 4 days before AF--at least that's a good sign that it was just too early!!! So, what, it's like 3:30 am there, or what? D@mn girl! At least you have 3 days off to recuperate! Ok, gotta run with DF to do the rounds, he's on call this weekend. He works at a water/wastewater treatment plant, which lucky for us is only 1/2 a block away from home! Will be back soon! Hope you have sweet BFP dreams!

[ElleJay]

Jen - Nah, it's only 1:30am here - I'm glad I've got the three days off, but it'll be spent looking for a new place and planning the wedding and doing house chores, all of which I actually don't mind. As long as AF doesn't arrive in 3 days, I'm gonna be happy I'm looking at alot of charts that have had a BFN at 8,9 and 10DPO only for them to have a BFP on the 11DPO one, so Im hopeful a little still (also gotta be hopeful it's sticky if I am!)
My DF is a primary school teacher, and he's sick at the moment but he's got work today (Monday) so he's in bed resting up and I work in the Staff Cafeteria at the local casino - not bad money but alot of hard work.
I know all about the BFNs as well - I had one cycle where I started on the 22nd of November 2007 and I didn't get AF until the 28th of Feb 2008! In that cycle alone I spent $40 on HPTs because DF kept bugging me about being preggers because of being so late - I think I saw a grand total of 9 BFNs in that cycle *sighs*
Anyways, have fun doing the rounds with DF - Hope there's nothing majorly wrong with the water today!

[nicksterUK]

WOOHOO congratulations Canary and AJC!!! Bloomin' fantastic xxxx Big Hugs

Happy Birthday Angel and PLC- hope you had lovely days xxxx


* * Babydust * * for everyone TTC, and got everything crossed for you all, as always xx

[mollycat]

Morning everyone

Well my cycle is still up to I don't know what. Still bleeding, I must say I don't enjoy AF once a month, this twice a month is just wrong. I spent yesterday in bed cuddled up under lots of blankets, the heater on, I just couldn't get warm at all, felt so ill and ended up sick last night, still don't feel so great and my temp flew back up this morning (hoping it's only cause i'm sick). It was lovely to see DH and DS's clean up the house yesterday afternoon cause I was too sick to, that doesnt happen very often without me directing.

Issy it gets very disheartening month after month when nothing seems to work, you know you BD at the right time, when I was trying for A it took me three years which was a total shock after falling on the pill with R, then knowing that we hadn't done anything to stop another pg, and it took 10 years for the last one. I hope you enoyed your treats, a little bit won't hurt you and if it makes you feel better, so be it.

LizJessie - hoping all works out for you

Jen hope you catch that eggy.

[plc1805]

Oh issy hun - I remember that feeling all too well. I was feeling the agony that, while i had a beautiful healthy DS, I wasn't going to be able to give him a brother or sister. He only has one cousin who is a few years older than him and we hardly see him and doubt they'll be close. My DH and i r older parents so he'll lose us earlier than later. I just felt like he was going to be all alone in the world (other than partner etc). It made me so incredibly sad. Thankfully i am pg but there is no guarantee there either and I am very aware i could be looking for those 2 lines again sooner than later. If you need the choc and wine, go and enjoy with no guilt.

LJ - sorry it was a BFN sweet - could be too early tho?

Nickster - hope ur doin ok - great to hear from you!!!

Jen - yep one more sleep - very scared!

Mollyucat - sorry ur feelin so cr*p!!! big hugs hun!

Thanks again everyone for the bday wishes - they are very much appreciated!!!

[pbstar]

morning girls

issy- big big for you cycle buddy. totally know how you feel and it is a relief to know you are actually human- i was starting to think you had some kind of super powers with your massive strength and positivity! don't get me wrong, it is great that you can be upbeat most of the time, but don't feel down on yourself for having down days too. i was like that all last week so didn't post much, just hid out in my little black hole. but all of a sudden you wake up again and the sun is shining and good things happen and you realise life is good and there is plenty to smile about. i'm sure you will get there again too, just let yourself feel and get it all out. every cycle we go through we are one step closer to getting our BFP's and i'm glad we can go through those cycles together. once again a big big for you.

AJC- i am on the nature's own b6 too- i really hope it helps me as much as it has helped you! are you going to keep taking now that you are preg?

plc and angel babies- a belated happy birthday wish, hope you both had great days

mollycat- can't believe you have had to go through two AF's in one month- extra big for you

i'm running late for work now, to everyone else big big hope you are all well

[Vanaithi]

Congrats Ajc!!!

[jen805]

LJ--So is it working at the casino that made you a poker junkie? lol... I checked out your public profile and you happened to mention poker a time or two, or four! Wow, that was a really long cycle you had back in Nov.--was it the first cycle after your m/c? That's crazy long... All's good on the water front, although we took the kids down to the aquatic center and he did get called out... but nothing major, and all's good now! So when do you think you'll test?


nickster! Always good to hear from you. How's that sticky little bub treating you?


mollycat--Did you get to the dr's today? Oh, it's probably still a little early there, isn't it? Hope you figure out what's up, hun! In my mind you're still my cycle buddy b'cuz I just like the sound of it! Hope you're feeling a little better today than yesterday. So sweet of your DS's and DH to clean up for you--especially without being told! Good guys you got there!


plc--No, No, No, you won't be looking for those 2 pink lines any time again soon! I'm so excited for you to see that strong tomorrow!! Are you keeping your mind occupied, or driving yourself crazy? It's gonna be great, you'll see! I knew you were pg, and I know you'll be giving us great news tomorrow after your scan! I'm so excited for you!


issy--Hope you're cheering up, love!


pbstar--Hope the B6 works it's charms for you! Is that to lengthen your LP? Or is there some other benefit to taking it, as well? I've heard lots of talk about it, so now I'm definitely curious! Hope you have a great day at work! It's still Sunday here, and I'm NOT looking forward to tomorrow!


Emmy-Lou--Just realized after checking the TWW thread that I didn't list you under the preggie section! I'm so sorry, it's been fixed and won't happen again! Hope things are going great with you!


AFM, still not sure if I've O'ed yet... no noticeable change in my CM, so I'm kinda guessing not yet. Although would've thought by now that I would have since I'm CD19. I did have some very light cramps yesterday and the day before, but aren't you supposed to feel it more on one side or the other, and not through your whole belly? I was also very irritable yesterday--does anyone else get irritable when O'ing, or near O?

Saw like 3 pg women at the pool today, all looking extremely uncomfortable and waddling... couldn't keep my eyes of their bellies! The people there probably thought I was a pervert or a lesbian!

[AJC]

Morning ladies

LJ - sorry about BFN, but it may just be too early yet.

mollycat - af is a cow, sorry you've had to endure her earlier than expected. Hope you get some answers. Glad DH & DS have been looking after you though.

nickster & vanaithi - thanks for the congrats.

jen - I know what you mean about the preggie bellies, I find I stare more at pregnant women than I do at babies!

issy - sorry you were having a down day. The rocky road & wine sounds like just the thing to help ease your pain - don't feel guilty about indulging!!! I hope and pray that you have your two pink lines very soon and a bouncing healthy bubba for your DS to play with.

afm - still just trying to be cool, calm & collected. Going for BT on Wed so fingers crossed I get good hcg levels. Still doesn't feel real.

Hugs and babydust to all!!!

[AJC]

pbstar - yes am still taking b6 for the moment. Will talk to ob about it when I see him next, hopefully in about 2 weeks.

[tina_k]

hi all,
well im back from Hong Kong, DH and i had a lovely time.
im sorry that i cannot keep up with all the posts from the last 2 weeks. from what i can see thru my quick skim, there are 2 BFPs?

Cngratulations AJC, and Canary! Woo hoo, thats wonderful girls, so happy for you both...

AFM, AF arrived at DAY 39! i was so over it by the end, stopped testing on CD 35, as i couldnt bear another bfn...

well, back on the bandwagon again...looks like im going to be in Syd and away rfrom DH right on O time, so there goes another month...im so over this...its been over 5 months since the MC, and i so desperately wanted to be pg on my edd, but im not sure it looks like thats going to happen...sorry for the dampener, but i just needed to release my frustration! off to make the appt with the accupuncturist (thanks plc)....

[Heaven]

Hello everyone!
Thought I'd introduce myself in here.
I know some of you and look forward to getting to know those of you I don't!
So for those who don't know me, i had a m/c about 2-3 wks ago. I actually found out a wk before that (8wks 4days) after some spotting that the baby had died I chose to m/c naturally and it took another week and a bit for that to happen. It took us 9 months to concieve after coming off the pill and my cycles being crazy so I'm hoping it doesn't take that long again. I have started temping again to try and work out what's going on and so i might know when AF is coming. The Dr said wait until I've had AF to start trying again but I don't know if I can bear it!! So this cycle we're not trying but we're not using contraception, just dtd whenever we feel like it. The next cycle we'll be back into full on trying again!
Well, that's my story, looking forward to chatting with you all!! Hope I can keep up!!

[jen805]

SaraJane! I'm so very sorry to read of your loss The reasons for us being here are so heartbreaking, so it never seems to sound right to say "welcome"... thanks for sharing your sad story with us, and I hope you find as much comfort and support here as I have! This is such a great group of women, we'll all try to make you feel right at home! I this journey is a short one for you, and you're blessed with a BFP very soon! You're in my thoughts and prayers, and I look forward to getting to know you!

[Katiegirl]

Hi SaraJane - I am very sorry for the loss of your precious baby. I hope you find comfort and support here. After we lost Nathaniel, I asked my Ob about trying again and what would happen if I fell pregnant before first AF - he told me that my body would not allow anything to happen that it wasn't ready for. Good luck with TTCing - and I hope this is a short journey for you.

Big congrats to AJC and Canary! I hope the next 8 months are happy and healthy. Welcome to the rollercoaster ride!

To all your ladies who have had BFNs - I am very sorry Just know that your time will come. Stay positive and keep on dreaming of the day that you will hold your much wanted babies.

AFM, not much to report. I am now 15 weeks and going a little crazy as this is around the time that Nathaniel passed away (but not detected until 20 weeks). Rational thinking tells me to relax, but it is so hard to not get caught up in the worry. We have another scan tomorrow so I am hoping that offers me some relief. I feel like my belly is growing, and I don't think I can really hide this pregnancy anymore. I still haven't told the majority of people in my life! Crazy but true. They must think I have developed a beer belly!

I hope you all had lovely weekends. There are so many names in here these days that I can hardly keep up - but know I am thinking of you all and keeping everyone in my prayers. We are all on the most difficult journeys of our lives, and I thank God that I have this forum or else I think I would have exploded from grief and worry by now. Thank you to everyone here!