Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08 #2

[Katiegirl]

Hi SaraJane - I am very sorry for the loss of your precious baby. I hope you find comfort and support here. After we lost Nathaniel, I asked my Ob about trying again and what would happen if I fell pregnant before first AF - he told me that my body would not allow anything to happen that it wasn't ready for. Good luck with TTCing - and I hope this is a short journey for you.

Big congrats to AJC and Canary! I hope the next 8 months are happy and healthy. Welcome to the rollercoaster ride!

To all your ladies who have had BFNs - I am very sorry Just know that your time will come. Stay positive and keep on dreaming of the day that you will hold your much wanted babies.

AFM, not much to report. I am now 15 weeks and going a little crazy as this is around the time that Nathaniel passed away (but not detected until 20 weeks). Rational thinking tells me to relax, but it is so hard to not get caught up in the worry. We have another scan tomorrow so I am hoping that offers me some relief. I feel like my belly is growing, and I don't think I can really hide this pregnancy anymore. I still haven't told the majority of people in my life! Crazy but true. They must think I have developed a beer belly!

I hope you all had lovely weekends. There are so many names in here these days that I can hardly keep up - but know I am thinking of you all and keeping everyone in my prayers. We are all on the most difficult journeys of our lives, and I thank God that I have this forum or else I think I would have exploded from grief and worry by now. Thank you to everyone here!

[Mel A]

hello everryone
Well i caved this afternoon and POAS..





So it's all from our end at least untill we see a heart beat, and then for as long as i can hold out.....

[jen805]

Mel-- Oh, Mel, I'm so happy for you! OMG, that makes 5 BFP's in like a week!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! I'm so for you!!!

[AJC]

Mel - CONGRATULATIONS

[jen805]

Welcome back tina! So did you feel that huge earthquake, or what? I was so worried about you! Sorry to hear about AF, what a long cycle you had! But you're back in the game now, so good luck for next cycle. Glad to have you back, can you believe all the BFP's?!?!



Katiegirl! Good luck with tomorrow's scan, I'll be waiting to hear about that strong Will they be able to tell the sex yet, or are you one of those really patient people that likes to be surprised?

[tina_k]

Mel A: woo hoo! Congratulations! you must be over the moon, thats wonderful! Now send some of those baby vibes my way!!!!

mmteacher: thanks for the welcome back! it certianly has been crazy around here while i was gone! 6 bfps? thats amazing!

jodsan: yeah, thank you, it is really hard not to think about the EDD, im trying so hard, but its so tough...we just have to keep focussing on the good things to come, and as issy said, we will aprreciate it so much more when it happens....

jen: as always, thank you. No, we didnt feel the earthquake at all in Honkers, but we did have a great time! It was really hard, but i tried not to focus on the TTC thing while we were away. but having such a long cycle did not help! aaah, well as you said theres always next month! how are you going?

[~ Mylitta ~]

Acria - I'm not a huge subway fan, but I do enjoy their meatball subs. I'm guessing that even the meatballs would be a bit iffy when pregnant... And if you don't have a good vibe about this month, then imagine the lovely surprise you will get if it IS your cycle!

Issy - I am so sorry you are feeling so down. I don't know you TTC story, but from what you've written here it looks like you've had a pretty rough time I don't think there is anything wrong with you indulging in some moments of grief though. Eat as much chocolate as you want because it sounds like you deserve it. Tomorrow is a new day and you can try to get back your positive attitude, but I often feel much better after letting my emotions take over for a while.

LizJessie - Sorry about the BFN, but good luck for the next test. When I was pregnant my sense of smell was definitely hightened. I nearly passed out in a Vietnamese market!! Ewww.
PS. Your hpt's come from a post office?! I had no idea you could get them there!
OMG, I just continued reading and realised they came in the mail for you and that I am stupid, lol!

mollycat - Your cycle sounds crazy! Has it ever happened before? I hope your doctor is about to help you understand what's going on. I don't even know what advice I could offer you I hope things get a bit more normal for you soon though!

Jen - I wonder if there is a term used for staring at pregnant bellies when you have "pregnancy envy"? I suffer from it too

SaraJane - I'm so glad you have found this thread too. The girls have all been so lovely and I already feel so comfortable in here. I know things happened for you about the same time as me, so how are you going now? We are doing exactly the same as you at the moment; not actively trying, but not using contraceptives. I've still got hcg in my body though so my body is on hold...

Mel - Huge congratulations to you!!

I just want to let you all know how glad I am to have found this post and had the nerve to join in. You are all so supportive of one another and I find it extremely comforting. I wish I could give you all a big group hug

And finally an update on me. I've just come back from having my arm stabbed, so I should get the BT results back in a couple of days. I've got my fingers crossed that the hcg level is close to a big fat ZERO! I just want so badly to ovulate so that we can try for another precious little life.

And I was wanting your opinions on something. DH and I are having a star named for our little angel. We found a package that is decent priced and they send you out a little Russ teddy bear with a certificate which we are going to keep with all the stuff related to our angel (like the positive hpt's). The question I have is about the certificate. They ask for a "Registration of Occasion Date" and I'm not sure what to put. Would we put the day we found out that she has passed away, or the date of my last LMP, or the date of conception (eg. the date I ovulated), or maybe her EDD?

[issy02]

Hi ladies,

This is a huge thankyou post:

Acria - Thankyou so much for your kind, thoughtful and encouraging words, they were just what I needed to hear to make me feel sooooo much more positive and start to really believe in myself again, you are a sweetheart

Jen - Thankyou so much hun, I know exactly what you mean about wanting to be pg again so badly. Although I want a healthy happy new baby more than anything, I also know whats its like to have a healthy and happy child right now as I am a mother already. Its being pg that I miss so much and dont really rememeber. I miss the wait and the wonder and the beautiful little movements within that say, 'hi, here I am' and you fall deeper in love with every butterfly flutter. Sometimes I feel that I took my pg'cy with DS for granted because it was so easy to fall pg and it all went by in a blur. Dont get me wrong, I loved being pg with him and everything about being pg, but I dont think I really appreciated how lucky I was to be pg in the first place. Thanks again hun for your lovely words, they are much appreciated

Lizjessie - Im so sorry about the BFN and for feeling so down yourself right now . Im sending you a huge block of chockie via cyber space right now, enjoy!!! Im that its just to early for you hun and that GREAT news is on its way. Also thankyou for your kind thoughts, Im thinking of you and sending you loads of GL and

Mollycat- I know what you mean! I accidently fell pg with DS and never expected that I would have such a difficult time conceiving again - But it has to happen sometime I guess. DH and I are healthy and fertile so it has to be just a matter of waiting (sometimes patiently and other times....not so much!) Thankyou so much for making me feel better

Plc - Thats exactly how I feel. I feel like Im failing DS as much as ourselves right now. I want so badly to for him to have a brother or sister. I dont know what I would do without mine, they are my best friends. I always knew there would be a large gap between DS and our other children because I fell pg so young and wouldnt be trying again for a few years. But now thats its a reality, its much more difficult than I thought it would be. Although DS is the happiest and most content little boy I know, I sometimes feel sorry for him when I see him playing in his room alone - I know he doesnt know any different and as far as he's concerned, his having a great time, but I just remember how much fun I had as a child with my siblings and how much I want that for him. Also GL for tomorrow (I think?) You ARE going to see a healthy little jelly bean with a strong heartbeat, I just know it. Stay positive (I know, easier said than done) but have faith that everything is going to be ok, you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

pbstar - Thankyou cycle buddy, and no, i dont have super powers (although I wish I did) and sometimes my postivity is a result of a lot of convincing myself (maybe not always entirely believing it) that its all ok. Im so sorry that you were so down last week too. I hope your'e feeling better this week. And you're right, there is always something to smile about and if you focus on the good things in your life, everything else seems a little easier to deal with. Im so hard for us both to have cycles that end in a bfp hun. You never know....this could our month! One step closer right????

AJC - Thankyou to you to hun, Hope you're staying cool, calm and collected still....and GL with for your BT on Wed, you will also be in my thoughts and prayers.

Ok, wow that was huge.....

I cant thankyou all enough for all the support and advice that all of you, so honestly, compassionatley and unconditionally give. You are the best bunch of women, and Iam so glad I found you.

for all,
Issy

[AJC]

Kategirl - just wanted to wish you all the best for tomorrow. Am sure all will be fine and you'll see that beautiful little and those gorgeous tiny little arms & legs. Can't wait to hear all about it.

SarahJane - Sorry for your loss. I'm sure you are finding good support in here.

Krystielove - totally up to you but I think I would use bub's edd. That's a really nice idea.

tinak - glad you had a nice holiday but sorry about BFN. I'm sure this will be your lucky cycle this time.

Emmylou - CONGRATS on the Wishing you a very happy & healthy pregnancy!

Best of luck to those about to and hugs to those in tww.
Sticky vibes for

Sorry if I've missed anyone - we've been very busy in here lately...

[Inanna]

Jodsan, you will find some information on miscarriage & some possible reasons for this HERE . If you have more questions post away and I will be happy to help if I can. Sorry for the quick post but I have to get back to my house!

It's time for a new thread. You will find the next one HERE