Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ September 08 #3

[nicjay]

Hey there Milla,

I had a similar thing happen to me too - I was OKish for a couple of months after my last m/c then fell in heap suddenly. I think it was mostly the approach of Christmas and some family members refusal to acknowledge my m/c and the expectation that I would be "back to normal" in time not to mess up their Christmas

Anyway, enough about me. The ladies here are a wonderful support of course, but I decided that I needed to find someone to talk to about it as well and was feeling like Angel, didn't want to talk to someone who had no idea what I was going through. I noticed you're in Europe so I don't know what you have available, but I went to Sids and Kids here in Aus. They have lovely counsellors that have all suffered a pregnancy loss and it helped me heaps to talk to them. I was wondering do you have some sort of miscarriage organisation over there who you could get some help from if you think you need it? I hope this helps you a little anyway

[AJC]

Milla - this is only my personal opinion: I went to a psychologist after my second m/c last year. It totally did not work for me - I felt like she just starred at me waiting for me to talk. I think I was expecting someone who would talk about feelings and how to handle them. I considered going to see someone else as I figured this woman was just a looney but then I stumbled upon this website and this forum/thread in particular and I found talking to other people who had actually been through what I was going through (or similar) helped the most. The ladies in here have been the most supportive people and important people in my ttcaml journey. I don't mean to sound ungrateful for my DH and family but the ladies in here are who helped me through my darkest days.