pash i am so sorry to hear about your loss i am with you on how you feel. i hope you are feeling alot better 2day after your d&c yesturday and hope it all went well for you. you should be very vertile now that you have had a clean out and maybe try again. bubs will eventually stick with you they do eventually with everyone so dont give up hun.
Pash - I'm so sorry to hear your news. I hope it wasn't a molar pg as that 6 months to 1 year wait to ttc would be very difficult for you. As you say, at least you will get some thorough testing now. I hope you are feeling OK today.
Leyla hope you have a great day.
Belinda - I'm sorry to hear about your friends death. Brain tumours are a horrible way to go - a work colleague died of one a couple of years ago & it was hard watching her go through the downward spiral. How heavy has your bleeding got? It's probably nothing to worry about, when I was younger every now & then I'd get a major AF that would gush & be really painful & I would feel absolutely drained.... thankfully it's been a number of years since I've had one.
Well its 3DPO for me and I have sore BBs. I'm feeling a little better today but am still concerned about the whole situation. Maybe I'm over-reacting, maybe it wont be as bad as I imagine but I have a feeling that my SIL will only have one topic of conversation for months.
Sorry to those I missed when I lost my personals yesterday.
I'd made the following notes so here goes but I'm sure I've missed people.
las - glad the BT went well. Your symptoms increasing is a great sign.
Bun - I think you might be better off to beg off the work function.
Salt - A dip means nothing until your AF arrives. I totally understand your frustration with the whole TTC process. Just have a look at my post last night and you will see how messed up I am right now.
Timinik - At first I liked the idea of the secret, until I read some articles about it and saw some reports on TV about it. The Aussie woman who wrote it has been accused of plaigurising (sorry I'm sure that's spelt wrong) it from another Aussie woman who wrote a very similar book several years ago. Some of the passages were practically word for word. One of the guys who appeared in the video has been ripping off dozens of Aussie people by saying he will invest their money to make money for them but he won't give it back to them. No wonder he was preaching that all you have to do is ask the universe for what you want and you will get it. Experts also warn that the teachings are not healthy. For instance, if you go with what they say you will believe that you will not catch a disease if you truly believe that you won't get it. Very dangerous territory that one. That said I think that positive thinking is a great idea, but I think the secret has tried to take this a little too far. I fell pregnant whilst TTC but really I did not think it would happen (due to my history) - it came as a huge shock. Since then I switched to thinking that it can happen again and it's just not happening. I even tried the imagining that I'd already received my gift - ie that I was pregnant and all that did was left me more disappointed than normal when I didn't turn out to be pregnant.... I think maybe I should go back to thinking that it's not possible again.... that seemed to work for me. It's great if it works for you but it's just not my cup of tea.
megsmum - If your progesterone defficiency was diagnosed based on just one blood test then it's not likely to be accurate. My GP had told me that mine was low and that I wasn't ovulating well (and I'd had two tests) and that my estrogen was too high but when I went to my gyno he told me that my results were nothing to worry about. I believe a whole series of blood tests have to be undertaken to diagnose a hormone problem accurately so don't stress about that.
pash - you have been in my thoughts all week and my heart breaks for you right now. Don't have any words to express my sorrow but wanted to answer your question.
They did testing on me because the sample from the D&C wasn't conclusive - there were some partially hydropic cells which can be associated with partial molar pregnancies. My hcg never went up but took a long time to come down. Those two things, combined with the unusual bleeding in surgery was the reason they checked for a partial molar pregnancy.
Pash - I, too, have been wondering how you have been. I was hoping it was a case of "no news is good news", but I was wrong. You poor thing Pash. Damm it. It does anger, why why why, it is so unfair that your little twins didn't stay, especially given how much they were wanted and loved by you and your DH. I know you are going to be feeling pretty ordinary for some time. You know we are here for you as much as we can be in cyberspace. This is a good time for you to be extremely kind to yourself, and keep your expectations low. And I do also know, that although it's terribly painful right now, your only true course of action is to keep trying. I truly hope your twins were not molar pregnancies, as waiting 6+ months to ttc will be hard. On the other hand, perhaps it's good for you emotionally to give it a short break, 6 months isn't that long in the scheme of things, and you could plan some lovely side trips away in Europe in that time perhaps, some nice healthy diversions. Big hugs to you Pash, you have been so kind and supportive of me and everyone else in here, and we all share your loss and feel your pain too. I pray that you get some simple answers why your bubs are not sticking, and even better, some simple solutions.
Hello to everyone else, will bbl for more. Nothing much to report with me, which is good I guess.
Oh Pash, that is just terrible, terrible news I am so sorry. You and your DH are in my thoughts and you have my deepest sympathies. Please take care of yourself.
Hi everyone else, I'll be back in a few days to do personals - I am out of internet allowance now for the rest of the month.
Pash - sweetheart, I am so sorry to hear your news. I was really hoping to hear that all was going along well. I don't know if it is any consolation, but I know how you feel. One m/c is bad enough, but 2 in a row really starts to get you down, esp the loss of your beautiful twins. It is good that you are now eligible to have some testing done, although you are right, there is only something like a 20% chance they will actually find something wrong, as unfortunately m/c is just v common. I had the testing down after my second m/c and although they didn't find anything, it was a little reassuring to know that there was nothing badly wrong. I hope it does not turn out to be a molar pg, that would just add salt to the wound after your losses. I know that right now a 6 mth wait probably feels like a v long time to you, so that is the last thing you want to hear. I am thinking of you sweetie, and I hope we can be of some support for you here. I got myself all freaked out about a molar pg yesterday and started researching them, I am just constantly paranoid right now.
Salt - sweetie, I don't know what to say, you just sound so down right now. I know it is so hard to see it happening one day, but it WILL happen one day. Why it is so much harder for some than others, I do not know, but you will get there in the end. I am so glad to hear that your parents op went well, I hope they will be home again in no time.
belinda - so sorry to hear about your friend, what a terrible way to go. You're right, life is so short and we really need to make the most of what we have, although some days that can be hard. I guess things like that remind us to make the most of every second.
Leyla -
satya - grrr re your SIL, I know how you feel, esp when you feel she is keeping the news from you. My SIL had the first grandchild 7 months ago, right between my m/cs, and I really struggle at family gatherings. Some days I just can't do it, I get so sick of everyone talking about her and the bub and goo-ing and gaa-ing all day long. It seems so unfair sometimes - why do some people have to go through so much when others just get what they want straight away?
TTBP - there is still time! I don't usually O until CD20-26 and sometimes we just have an 'off' cycle for some reason, so there is still a chance!
shellbell - glad to hear you have an appointment with a FS. They sure make you wait for an appointment sometimes!!
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Leyla hope you have a great day.
I am so sorry. You and your DH are in my thoughts and you have my deepest sympathies. Please take care of yourself.
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