TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08 #2

[MistyFying]

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[pash]

Canary The wedding's in the Gold Coast, I live in London. I'm in a rental as well but it sorely needs redecorating. BTW I loved Hot Fuzz. I watched it during my first m/c (after not seeing a h/b at u/s, before d&c), and it was so funny that it really took my mind off my troubles for 2 hours. I still have a giggle when I see a Japanese Peace Lily. Enjoy your Easter/BD break!

Jodsan Oooh... very promising symptoms! Good luck.

BettyBoop :hugs: How frustrating. I understand the fear and uncertainty. It's been 9 months since I was last PG and have only just been given the all clear to start ttc in June (though I'm not waiting that long). PM me if you would like to chat.

plc Poor DS and poor mum! Hope he gets better soon

AJC Yay! We're almost cycle buddies!

Hello & good luck to anyone I missed.

My best friend just told me about this Parsi tradition/festival. At this time of year, they light a flame every night for 3 weeks, and then are entitled to make a wish for someone other than themselves. Well, my best friend, who is not even Parsi, heard about this and lit a flame for the last three weeks. Then she wished that DH & I have a kid!

How sweet is that! I was so touched, I had to share it with a bunch of strangers No, I was really, genuinely, very touched.

[danielsgirl1113]

hi everyone,
I have been reading the posts and keeping up with all the news going on here. Congratulations to all the ladies with the !!! I'm very happy and excited for you. I'm still waiting for the OK from my doctor to DTD, and I hope when I "get the go ahead" I will get a soon too!

I have finally stopped bleeding from the d and c (it took almost 2 weeks) today I am a little crampy and even though I know its too soon for AF I wish that is what it was. That would just mean that me and DH can start trying again soon.

I hope that everyone here has a great day and lost of POSITIVE experiances. Take care for now!

[mmteacher]

Hello,

My Dh and I were TTC for 15 months when we finally started Clomid in February...I wasn't sure if it would work or not but surprisingly, we got pregnant in the first month! I was elated and we were so happy that we decided to just tell everyone and hope for the best...Unfortunately the reason I am here is because about a week later, I started bleeding and ended up having an early miscarriage...I did not have a D & C and my bleeding has almost stopped so I am hoping I won't need one...I have another blood test Monday to see if my HCG dropped below 5 and if it did, then I guess I won't need a D & C. I am hoping I don't need one-I've been through enough already...So, this is very fresh for me and I still have a very empty feeling inside...It just feels like a broken heart.

My DH and I are going to be careful this month and wait until AF comes and then start the Clomid again and hope we get pregnant quickly again but with a sticky bean...I am glad to have found all of you and I hope that luck will come to all of us soon!

[tempus moriendi]

O has been accomplished, The Deed has been Done, now I'm just on the nest, waiting. Ugh. And trying REAL hard not to get my hopes up...yeah, right...

xmuginsx: congratulations! I'll be praying!

tina_k: sending cyberhug

Katiegirl: good luck, whatever you decide about seeing your friends

AJC: sorry about AF and good luck with your friends

Emmy-Lou: I"m sorry for your loss. best of luck and I'll keep you in my prayers

LizJessie: it could be implantation bleed or it could be your hormones going a little haywire. unfortunately, only time will tell, but I've got all my fingers crossed for you

pbstar: sending cyberhug

pash: you're so funny--mile high club
is parsi Indian?

fiona264: I had PCOS back in the 90's and my symptoms were my periods got more sparse and infrequent...I also had weight gain, but they found I also have a thyroid problem...but you're only 41--not running out of time--look at all the 40something celebs getting pregnant!

Mel A: good luck with TTC

bettyboop: I"m praying very hard for you

danielsgirl1113: keeping fingers crossed

mmteacher: I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my prayers and best of luck TTC

[Mel A]

mmteacher
I feel for you, a new m/c after so long, is a feeling that can't be described. You will be in my heart. I found it helpful to share the details with people that i trusted. It helped me grieve.
I then latched on the (with all my claws) to the fact that I could get pregnant.

Also I realised that I had lots of negative and distructive thoughts running through my head; resentment for those that held their BFP. Those who have babies even those that look like they might be able to get pregnant. So as part of this difficult journey, I now chosen to beleive that my body knows what it's doing. (even if it needs some help to get started) If I had/have a m/c then it was because my body knew that something wasn't right. It is protecting me from more pain and ensuring my life when i do have a baby will be a special one.

Hope reading this helps a little.

Mel

PS. whatching the notebook helped. Sobbing for a good hour.

[Magda]

Hi ladies,

Hope everyone is having a good day today.

Canary: Have a wonderful trip, Happy Easter.

Jodsan: Thanks. back at ya hun.

Betthyboop: I also know what you mean about time running out I'm trying not to stress out. GL with op next week.

MmTeacher: Welcome and I am so sorry for your loss. You have come to the right place for support.

TM: Good luck to you too.

As for me I am now 7dpo and I am trying to stay calm and not get my hopes up. And I use the term "trying" loosely because it is very hard. Anyways by the time I realized that I had o'd (a few days after the fact) I had BD'd that wed and o'd on fri (sorry if tmi) so I am really hoping.

Anyways, wishing you all lovely ladies a very Happy Easter.

[jen805]

Saw the date of your m/c (my b-day) and felt compelled to say hello. Had my m/c the day before yours (happy b-day to me). Just wanted you to know that I know what you're going through, and I know how hard it is. You're in my thoughts and prayers. Wishing you luck on TTC, I hope it happens quickly!

[jen805]

danielsgirl1113-- Noticed the date of your m/c (my b-day) and felt compelled to write you. I had my m/c the day before yours on the 5th (happy b-day to me). Just wanted you to know you're not alone, and I know exactly how you feel. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Good luck TTC!

[berecca623]

Katiegirl - I so know how you are feeling and although it is probably not the best have a strong feeling it must be normal after everything we have gone through! Hopefully your ob has made you feel calmer!

Tina - Congrats on finding a way to DTD whilst parents were visitng, hopefully this is the month for you guys, especially with all the hassle you had to go through!

AJC - Sorry to hear you have been having side-effects from your clomid, I hope they settle down soon and that they help!

Betty - Congrats about the weight loss, I wish I could drop weight without thinking or trying!!!

Jen - I am reall sorry that you are here, but welcome. Hopefully your TTC journey will not be a long one!

Prayingandhoping - I am really sorry to hear about your horrible experience. I believe it is time to start TTC again when you feel you are ready, it is right! So if you are feeling it I say go for it. It may take some time, it may not, but I hope that your journey is stress free (wishful thinking perhaps?) and that you din't have to wait too long to be pg. again!

mmteacher - My advice is that if you don't feel up to going to the baby shower ... DON'T! That's right think of yourself and your mental and emotional wellbeing. They will understand, and if they don't they are selfish and not a true friend! I think as women we are all about making others happy, doing what we think everyone expects us to, and forget about what we want and need!

As for me:

Well yesterday went to docs and FINALLY got a positive urine test. I really just felt like saying "I told you so" in a very frustrated voice. So this morning was the blood test, wasn't that fun! I have really deep veins and because I had to fast (also needed other tests done for my back so did it all at once!) my veins were hard to find and it hurt, more than usual so more than I was expecting! Sook I know!! So now next appointment next Monday for results and chat with doc. She has told me to come once a week until I see the ob just so I can talk to someone, ask whatever I need to etc, which is great. She is not big on doing lots of tests and has a great outlook, for me anyway. Yesterday she told me that if I am going to have a m/c this time it is already programmed to do so and there is nothing I can do about it, nothing that will cause it, nor stop it. Harsh perhaps but I know its the truth and just what I needed to hear. The fact is that if there is something wrong with this pg there is something wrong and has been since conception! My thoughts though are that this is going to be a full term pg with a healthy baby at the end. I just feel it is all right!

Sorry if this is hard for everyone in here, its just have come close to you all and feel comfortable chatting to you. I am also still too scared to post in the other forum, not ready yet!

So good luck to you all, i will be keeping watch and hoping and praying for you all!!

[Jodsan]

Oh Berecca that is fantastic news! I also knew from the start that my pregnancy with Aiden was going to be healthy and it all went perfectly. That's a really good sign that you can "feel all is right". I'm sooo happy for you

[jen805]

berecca623--Congratulations on your BFP! I hope and pray you get your beautiful, healthy baby! Glad to hear you're having positive feelings with this one! I wish you the best of luck!

[plc1805]

I am going to try my darndest to do a thorough personals here - I do think of you all...
angelbabies - bday buddy honey - hope ur having great hols and well-deserved time-out. Thanks for ur post to Canary, I'm sure it did her the world of good as well as the rest of us. You made me cry of course when u talked of ur angels - thankyou again for ur sharing of urself in the special way u do.
katie - hope all goes well with the catch-up with ur friends this weekend. Be strong hun cos u have a new life to focus on - which doesn't mean taking anything away from what u had with Nathaniel. Didn't angelbabies have the right words for you too - she's a good egg (so to speak). Let us know how u go with ur friends.
seenabeena - haven't heard from u in a while - hope ur well. Sorry that u have that reminder all the time with ur sil. I had that reminder with someone who was 2 weeks ahead of me. It's hard to be happy for someone else completely when u have sadness inside. Take care hun.
tina - I know how you feel about being in the mood. I would say that since my 2nd m/c in June last year I have put a TREMENDOUS pressure on myself to BD almost robotically with only the focus of making a baby in mind - esp as I did not want a big gap between #1 and #2. Can I just say - not healthy. Without going into too much detail, it takes all the naturalness out of DTD and just made it really hard for me to reach great heights (hope u know what I mean just don't want to use the word here ). And I know how hard it is when u calculate that "yep, gonna have a baby by certain date for various reasons" - puts way too much pressure on u, sweety. I know this is not what u want to hear - cos I didn't want to either but before now I wasn't ready to here it. Now, I have finally given in and I am just leaving things happen as they will. I am going to have a huge gap between kids (let's say, much greater than I had wanted) but I can't make it happen if it's just not going to on a given cycle. Have faith sweety that it WILL happen for u. But, unlike a lot of things that can be planned and organised, this aint one of them. Be kind to urself hun - if u don't feel like BDing just go with that. Hugs hun - I feel for u.
jodsan - how r u sweet? Sailing nicely thru ur 2W - hope so!! They sound like good symptoms!!! Enjoy the weekend - as short as it is for u with DH at work...
berecca - how r u going? hoping things have well and truly settled for u and that u r still feeling more and more pg - how lovely!!
Canary - hey there!! sounds like ur on ur way in ur 2ww with plenty of activities on the cards as well as a lovely couple of days away right now - good on u, hun!! I think I might take the approach next cycle (when I can start BDing again) that I'm not allowed to TTC til the following cycle so that I can relax while BDing as well as gear myself up for AF. Sort of a "oooh! I'm so naughty BDing when I'm not supposed to be" approach. That's what I say now but I'll prob go for something different when the time comes - go as the mood strikes. Take care!!
pash - welcome!! heehee about mile high club. I told tina that I did it on the beach during o-time - there wasn't any privacy at the beach house I was sharing with mum, dad & rest of family Hope u have a great trip downunder and manage to DTD along the way. Thanks for ur post re DS - he is still quite crook so we just have to wait it out. Funny thing is that he was crook last year at Easter too - could be change of weather where we are. Take care and GL, hun!
tempus - sorry I hadn't posted to wish u well while o-ing and bd-ing but hope ur ok during this 2WW and that u have a well-deserved rest after all ur bd-ing!! I hope u manage to keep busy over the next 2 weeks with loads of distractions - try anyway !!
mollycat - GL - let us know how u went with gyno!!!! Keep strong hun!
Starrysky - hope ur well - give ur belly a rub for me!!!
Beaksie - congrats on ur pg - well done!!!
natty - hey and happy easter to u too!! Hope all is well with u....
smilanatu - hey sweet, thanks for stopping by, let us know how ur getting on when u have the chance!!
AJC - sorry about AF, sweet, but GL with clomid for this cycle. Onwards to positivity right? My sentiments exactly being surrounded by newborns - some of that lovely dust has got to stick good for you!! You know I bought a low GI book a little while back with all good intentions and I still haven't read it. Thanks for the reminder!! Someone I know was about to start IVF after being on a low GI diet for a while but didn't have to cos she found out she didn't have to at the last minute cos she was already pg. Wow - pretty inspiring!
Magda - great to hear from you - how u doin, hun? I hope all is going well
Fiona - hey there - interesting about GI diet - I've been inspired by u and AJC to get my book out on the subject. I know u said time is not on ur side but I know people who know a heap of other people who have had children in their mid-forties. I hope u don't let it get u down - u r at least making proactive choices like diet and that's so positive. - GL and keep strong!!!
betty - my dear - to say I have everything crossed for u is a total understatement - 9 days to go!!! got so much positivity going across those waters to you - I hope the wind helps them along.
danielsgirl - hey - great to hear bleeding has FINALLY stopped!!! When do u expect to get some idea of when ur green light is to TTC? Mine is April 15 - 24 sleeps to go (sigh!). Here's praying for both of us!!!
mmteacher - honey I'm so so sorry to hear of ur loss - to u at this hard time. Where do u just put that hope and love that u were feeling for ur wee one? Very very hard.Welcome anyway and wishing u all the best for a short stay here. Take care.
Mel A - I went thru very similar experiences as u described. Yes, The Notebook is a goody to get any unspent tears out of ur system. Hope ur well hun.

Me - nothing new just waiting for April 15. I think I have or am about to o which is good to know cos I haven't charted a proper full cycle yet but not that I can do anything right now anyway.

everyone!!!!

[plc1805]

oooh!!! GL Magda!!!! hoping and praying for you!!!
Hi and hugs to anyone I may have missed on that last post - I really did try (took me forever)

[Magda]

Hi Plc1805,

Thank you so much am hoping for a belated Easter gift. I am so trying not to stress over this but I do find that it is all I can think about sometimes. I want to wish you GL for next month, you get some time to get yourself ready that is awesome.

Happy Easter.

[fiona264]

plc1805 Thank you so much for your reply. I have started on the GI Diet and I absolutely love all the food on it. Its all the food I love but my family doesn't really like the heavy breads and stuff. Then again, they are not trying to conceive . I have a bit of weight to lose, so hopefully I will get to a weight that I feel comfortable with conceiving. My DH thinks I am fine, but its what I feel about myself and he wants me happy too. Hes a dollface

I know its stressful at trying to conceive and the age thing, but I have noticed that the age of conceiving is getting older and older these days, probably mostly to do with careers too. I feel so much better talking to you girls. Thank you.

[mmteacher]

Hello again everyone!

Tempus~Thank you for the welcome-hope your BDing worked out and you get a sticky bean!

Mel~Thanks for the welcome-I too have latched on to the idea that at least I can get pregnant...I was beginning to think I couldn't after trying so long...Hopefully it won't take long again once I am able to start the Clomid. BTW, I also love the Notebook and I absolutely sob every time I watch it-the most beautiful love story ever! I actually cried on Wednesday night for about 2 hours really hard and besides being tired and having swollen eyes, I have been feeling a bit better since then.

Magda~Thank you for the welcome-I hope this is your month for a BFP!

Plc1805~Thank you for the welcome...You did a good job of hitting every personal-that'll give us all something to strive for!

AFM~Tomorrow we are going to the Renaissance Festival and Sunday will be Easter lunch with some close friends so hopefully it will be a cheerful weekend. I am so glad to have found all of you-I was on a board before I got pregnant and up until this week when I miscarried but I am having trouble feeling like a fit in there now...Thanks for taking me in everyone!

Good Night everyone!

[Jodsan]

Hi all,

Starting to get a bit nuts, god only 8dpo too! Still really dizzy and boobs still sore but less fatigued now. Have had subtle cramping for two days too so I'm its implantation. Who knows, body has been weird since the mc, so might be, might not be

I agree with all of you girls, there is no doubt that 40 is the new 30, I'm coming up to 35 and have never been happier. I can only imagine that things will just keep getting better leading up to 40 and beyond. I love being of our generation, we can be whatever we wanna be and do whatever we wanna do whenever it suits us (sometimes our bodies just need a little push to come along for the ride!).

Pash - That's so sweet of your BF! Hope it worked!

mmteacher - I'm so sorry for your loss I'm sure a sticky bean will be coming your way really soon.

Tempus - Good luck with the TWW, sending you some

Magda - I'm with you, its all I can think about at the moment. I notice though that I only get like that when I think my chances are pretty good. Sounds like you think your in with a good shot too, got my fingers crossed for you.

Angel - You are so naughty Hope you're having a great break and that the TWW is flying by nicely!

PLC - good luck catching that eggy!

Danielsgirl - Hope your cycle gets back to normal really soon (and that it is actually AF!). Good luck.

Fiona - I really dont like your doctor How dare he (I am assuming "he" by the comment?) say he wont help you until you lose some weight. It's really great that you are trying the low GI, it's best to prepare your body as best you can before pregnancy but he has no right to refuse you clomid. I say go to a new doctor.

Natty - yeah, I have had really vivid dreams the past few nights too. One of them, I had to stab someone who was trying to kill me, it was so real, I woke up terrified (and very relieved that it was just a dream and I wasn't going to jail, hehe). It has been a full moon though so I thought it might just be that, I hadn't associated it with possible pregnancy?

AJC - Good luck with the Clomid, hope it makes a difference for you!

ll80 - Good luck with the doctor, got my fingers crossed!

Sorry if I've missed anyone, sending you all some