TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08 #2

[pash]

Canary The wedding's in the Gold Coast, I live in London. I'm in a rental as well but it sorely needs redecorating. BTW I loved Hot Fuzz. I watched it during my first m/c (after not seeing a h/b at u/s, before d&c), and it was so funny that it really took my mind off my troubles for 2 hours. I still have a giggle when I see a Japanese Peace Lily. Enjoy your Easter/BD break!

Jodsan Oooh... very promising symptoms! Good luck.

BettyBoop :hugs: How frustrating. I understand the fear and uncertainty. It's been 9 months since I was last PG and have only just been given the all clear to start ttc in June (though I'm not waiting that long). PM me if you would like to chat.

plc Poor DS and poor mum! Hope he gets better soon

AJC Yay! We're almost cycle buddies!

Hello & good luck to anyone I missed.

My best friend just told me about this Parsi tradition/festival. At this time of year, they light a flame every night for 3 weeks, and then are entitled to make a wish for someone other than themselves. Well, my best friend, who is not even Parsi, heard about this and lit a flame for the last three weeks. Then she wished that DH & I have a kid!

How sweet is that! I was so touched, I had to share it with a bunch of strangers No, I was really, genuinely, very touched.

[danielsgirl1113]

hi everyone,
I have been reading the posts and keeping up with all the news going on here. Congratulations to all the ladies with the !!! I'm very happy and excited for you. I'm still waiting for the OK from my doctor to DTD, and I hope when I "get the go ahead" I will get a soon too!

I have finally stopped bleeding from the d and c (it took almost 2 weeks) today I am a little crampy and even though I know its too soon for AF I wish that is what it was. That would just mean that me and DH can start trying again soon.

I hope that everyone here has a great day and lost of POSITIVE experiances. Take care for now!

[mmteacher]

Hello,

My Dh and I were TTC for 15 months when we finally started Clomid in February...I wasn't sure if it would work or not but surprisingly, we got pregnant in the first month! I was elated and we were so happy that we decided to just tell everyone and hope for the best...Unfortunately the reason I am here is because about a week later, I started bleeding and ended up having an early miscarriage...I did not have a D & C and my bleeding has almost stopped so I am hoping I won't need one...I have another blood test Monday to see if my HCG dropped below 5 and if it did, then I guess I won't need a D & C. I am hoping I don't need one-I've been through enough already...So, this is very fresh for me and I still have a very empty feeling inside...It just feels like a broken heart.

My DH and I are going to be careful this month and wait until AF comes and then start the Clomid again and hope we get pregnant quickly again but with a sticky bean...I am glad to have found all of you and I hope that luck will come to all of us soon!

[tempus moriendi]

O has been accomplished, The Deed has been Done, now I'm just on the nest, waiting. Ugh. And trying REAL hard not to get my hopes up...yeah, right...

xmuginsx: congratulations! I'll be praying!

tina_k: sending cyberhug

Katiegirl: good luck, whatever you decide about seeing your friends

AJC: sorry about AF and good luck with your friends

Emmy-Lou: I"m sorry for your loss. best of luck and I'll keep you in my prayers

LizJessie: it could be implantation bleed or it could be your hormones going a little haywire. unfortunately, only time will tell, but I've got all my fingers crossed for you

pbstar: sending cyberhug

pash: you're so funny--mile high club
is parsi Indian?

fiona264: I had PCOS back in the 90's and my symptoms were my periods got more sparse and infrequent...I also had weight gain, but they found I also have a thyroid problem...but you're only 41--not running out of time--look at all the 40something celebs getting pregnant!

Mel A: good luck with TTC

bettyboop: I"m praying very hard for you

danielsgirl1113: keeping fingers crossed

mmteacher: I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my prayers and best of luck TTC

[Mel A]

mmteacher
I feel for you, a new m/c after so long, is a feeling that can't be described. You will be in my heart. I found it helpful to share the details with people that i trusted. It helped me grieve.
I then latched on the (with all my claws) to the fact that I could get pregnant.

Also I realised that I had lots of negative and distructive thoughts running through my head; resentment for those that held their BFP. Those who have babies even those that look like they might be able to get pregnant. So as part of this difficult journey, I now chosen to beleive that my body knows what it's doing. (even if it needs some help to get started) If I had/have a m/c then it was because my body knew that something wasn't right. It is protecting me from more pain and ensuring my life when i do have a baby will be a special one.

Hope reading this helps a little.

Mel

PS. whatching the notebook helped. Sobbing for a good hour.

[Magda]

Hi ladies,

Hope everyone is having a good day today.

Canary: Have a wonderful trip, Happy Easter.

Jodsan: Thanks. back at ya hun.

Betthyboop: I also know what you mean about time running out I'm trying not to stress out. GL with op next week.

MmTeacher: Welcome and I am so sorry for your loss. You have come to the right place for support.

TM: Good luck to you too.

As for me I am now 7dpo and I am trying to stay calm and not get my hopes up. And I use the term "trying" loosely because it is very hard. Anyways by the time I realized that I had o'd (a few days after the fact) I had BD'd that wed and o'd on fri (sorry if tmi) so I am really hoping.

Anyways, wishing you all lovely ladies a very Happy Easter.

[Baby Angels]

DH is in the shower and I ve quickly come on to just check and saw a new thread... goodness cant have a new thread without



Ok thats muchhhhhh better

Ok going back to holidays.... shhhhh dont tell DH

I have such a massive catch up to do when I get back

[jen805]

Saw the date of your m/c (my b-day) and felt compelled to say hello. Had my m/c the day before yours (happy b-day to me). Just wanted you to know that I know what you're going through, and I know how hard it is. You're in my thoughts and prayers. Wishing you luck on TTC, I hope it happens quickly!

[jen805]

danielsgirl1113-- Noticed the date of your m/c (my b-day) and felt compelled to write you. I had my m/c the day before yours on the 5th (happy b-day to me). Just wanted you to know you're not alone, and I know exactly how you feel. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Good luck TTC!

[berecca623]

Katiegirl - I so know how you are feeling and although it is probably not the best have a strong feeling it must be normal after everything we have gone through! Hopefully your ob has made you feel calmer!

Tina - Congrats on finding a way to DTD whilst parents were visitng, hopefully this is the month for you guys, especially with all the hassle you had to go through!

AJC - Sorry to hear you have been having side-effects from your clomid, I hope they settle down soon and that they help!

Betty - Congrats about the weight loss, I wish I could drop weight without thinking or trying!!!

Jen - I am reall sorry that you are here, but welcome. Hopefully your TTC journey will not be a long one!

Prayingandhoping - I am really sorry to hear about your horrible experience. I believe it is time to start TTC again when you feel you are ready, it is right! So if you are feeling it I say go for it. It may take some time, it may not, but I hope that your journey is stress free (wishful thinking perhaps?) and that you din't have to wait too long to be pg. again!

mmteacher - My advice is that if you don't feel up to going to the baby shower ... DON'T! That's right think of yourself and your mental and emotional wellbeing. They will understand, and if they don't they are selfish and not a true friend! I think as women we are all about making others happy, doing what we think everyone expects us to, and forget about what we want and need!

As for me:

Well yesterday went to docs and FINALLY got a positive urine test. I really just felt like saying "I told you so" in a very frustrated voice. So this morning was the blood test, wasn't that fun! I have really deep veins and because I had to fast (also needed other tests done for my back so did it all at once!) my veins were hard to find and it hurt, more than usual so more than I was expecting! Sook I know!! So now next appointment next Monday for results and chat with doc. She has told me to come once a week until I see the ob just so I can talk to someone, ask whatever I need to etc, which is great. She is not big on doing lots of tests and has a great outlook, for me anyway. Yesterday she told me that if I am going to have a m/c this time it is already programmed to do so and there is nothing I can do about it, nothing that will cause it, nor stop it. Harsh perhaps but I know its the truth and just what I needed to hear. The fact is that if there is something wrong with this pg there is something wrong and has been since conception! My thoughts though are that this is going to be a full term pg with a healthy baby at the end. I just feel it is all right!

Sorry if this is hard for everyone in here, its just have come close to you all and feel comfortable chatting to you. I am also still too scared to post in the other forum, not ready yet!

So good luck to you all, i will be keeping watch and hoping and praying for you all!!

[Jodsan]

Oh Berecca that is fantastic news! I also knew from the start that my pregnancy with Aiden was going to be healthy and it all went perfectly. That's a really good sign that you can "feel all is right". I'm sooo happy for you

[mmteacher]

Oh darnit, I posted twice and can't erase this one...see next page for my real post!

[Natty]

Hi Everyone

Firstly, I am sorry Jen805 and prayingandhoping on your losses. May your stay on this post be a short one and that your lives are lightened with a BFP very soon. Its a horrible time following a m/c and you feel like the craziness, sadness and loneliness of it all is never going to end but at some stage the dark cloud will lift and you'll start feel normal again (although you will always remember the little angel that you lost).

Magda - fingers crossed for Jodsan, you and I that the vivid dreams mean a BFP! My dreams keep getting more vivid - last night I dreamt a tidal wave came and was taking all the cement out from the bricks on our house and then I remembered my parents live closer to the beach than we do and I was swimming really hard to get to their house but kept getting slammed against houses and palm trees (dont know where the trees came from!).

Berecca - congrats on your confirmation from your GP. Its good that you have an understanding Doctor.

Jodsan - any more spotting? I'm thinking of you and hoping with all my heart its implantation.

As for me well I am not really sure if I am 9DPO or 10DPO. My OPK showed +ve on Sunday 16 March so prob "o'd" on Monday 17 March which would make it 9DPO. Couldnt help doing a HPT (first response) this pm and the faintest most faintest line came up. You could only see the most vaguest line if you knew where to look so it might be my head trying to make something up but I have never had an evap line on first response so I am going to do another one tomorrow with FMU. Its horrible to want something so badly and to have to keep waiting waiting waiting to know whether you are or not. Thank goodness (and my DH says it too) for you ladies for making me feel normal and allowing me to vent, to question and to share experiences!

To the ladies trying to lose weight - keep up the good work! Its hard going (I know since our m/c i have put on a couple of kg's and trying to lose it is so hard). For me, I cant diet because I am not strong willed enough. Exercise is the only way I can lose weight so I admire you very much - whats the secret?!

Natty

[mmteacher]

Jen805~Thank you for your prayers and kind words-I feel lucky to have found support here!

Fiona~Yes, I think you can only get Clomid from your OB-I take 100mg days 5-9 and prometrium from days 14-21 also...I secretly hoped for twins too-as soon as I got a BFP I was wishing for them...Next time I am just wishing for healthy, but twins would still be a great bonus! I had to TTC for 12 months and then do hormone therapy for 3 months because I had irregular cycles before my doctor would put me on Clomid...It worked though and hopefully it will again!

Berecca~Thank you for the advice...I think I am going to go with it...I remember right before I got my BFP last time, I went to a birthday party for a little one and my DH and I were the only couple there without kids and I had a very hard time then...I can only imagine that the pain of it all would be so much greater this time around and I know most of the women there will be moms. I am sitting this one out-being selfish just once for the sake of me! Congratulations on your BFP-I am so glad for you that things feel right-it gives the rest of us hope!
Sending you

MMteacher

[Katiegirl]

Berecca - congrats on finally getting the confirmed BFP. How far along are you?

Saw my ob today and got to see the heartbeating away again - so all good news. Ob said it looks healthy and he is happy - which makes me extremely happy. It is quite emotional for DH and I to see the heartbeat - and the few seconds it takes for it to come clear are agonising. I have a good feeling about this baby - and like you Berecca I think we are both going to have full terms.

Hope everyone else is well.

[fiona264]

mmteacher Thanks for the info. I thought you could only get it from an obstetrician, but wasn't 100% sure.

Jodsan Sending you all the luck in the world. Take care of yourself and think positive.

Natty Thanks, yes still trying to lose those dreadful kilos. I went crazy after I miscarried, like I didn't care what I put in my mouth. Slept alot and generally felt sorry for myself. But, I turned around recently and concentrated on trying again after so long.

Berecca So happy for you. Congratulations and Good Luck.

prayingandhoping Sending positive vibes to you .....

[jen805]

berecca623--Congratulations on your BFP! I hope and pray you get your beautiful, healthy baby! Glad to hear you're having positive feelings with this one! I wish you the best of luck!