Trying to Conceive after Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/Stillbirth ~ March 09

[Miss.B]

Hi chookies,

I'm stuck at work today and tomorrow, but my work is closed this week (ie no production and almost 95% of people are away this week). I'm taking turns with another girl answering the phone...yeepee

First of all, Dee I am so sorry you're so stressed dealing with your DH's family. What are they thinkng?????!!!! Don't they realize you are hurting so much because your little girl isn't here like she was supposed to be, and you'd do anything to have her back?? I just don't understand the mentality of some people. Is is so hard to get a bit of support here???? I think they have very big issues themselves which they need to work out. I can partly understand the lack of support as I had/have issues with my own mum, but she never had any negative comments about IVF, she is so excited that we're trying again in June. She just wasn't very supportive towards us when we lost Joshua, as she was just interested in us moving forward (and forgetting about Josh) and having another go so she could ba a grandmother.
Dee, unfortunately some people are pretty ignorant about certain things (such as IVF) and they think if we tried really realy hard, we'd get pg naturally. Well, I wish this was the case, but sometimes it's just not. Some of us really need this treatment to have a baby.
My advice for you would be to just ignore their comments as they are very hurtful and you don't need any more stress while undergoing IVF. As for your DH's daughter, maybe she was looking forward to having a brother or sister and she's just sad that she didn't get that chance of having a sibling. Maybe have a good chat to her and tell her exactly how you feel. Big hugs hunny, and pleeeeeese don't stress about them all. You look after yourself first and foremost, as that is the most important thing. I wish you soooo much good luck for Friday hun. I truly hope and very hard that this is the one!!!!
I'm so hard for a BFP for you hun!!!! Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeese!!!!

Megan, my cycles after Joshua were the same (29 days) except the last cycle which was only 27 days. I very rarely have a shorter cycle, so maybe this was one of them. I wish mine were shorter like yours too!! It's O time for me ATM so for the first time in months I'm really TTC hard naturally. Oh well, it could happen!!!!! Anything can happen (my new motto is NEVER SAY NEVER!). I would be stoked if you got pg on your next cycle hun, especially that you'll really give it a good go. Oh, let it be!!!!!

Jas, I'm so glad m/s is wearing off. But I also understand your anxiety as it's probably better to feel 'off' so you know you're definitely UTD!!! all the best sweetie, just reading your last couple of posts you seem a lot more happier and positive which is great!!!

Teagz, I want you to have the best holiday!!! You just need to be on stand by, that's all!! ha ha. I hope you come back knocked up lovie!!!!

Nae, sending you lots of nice big sticky vibes and big big hugs. My easter was a bit average too, I kept thinking if Joshua was here he'd be wearing the biggest set of bunny ears I could find! Just missed my little darling

Diana, let us know you're OK! You must have slowed down a bit by now surely???? Hope all is good at your end.

Cheryl, I hope you've had a nice little break

Hi to all my other lovely friends, big hugs to everyone

B xxxx

[helle]

Well get ready for it...
This morning I woke up with a cold! and, i'm trying to decide if i'm going to get hit with thrush again -.-; Bah!!
I went to see my naturopath today though who has supplied me with a stronger dose of herbs and she thinks it should really hit it on the head. Fingers crossed. But, I explained to her that have AF I get a dry feeling down there, and then thrush seems to come a couple of days after that feeling. So she thinks I have low oestrogen levels(which supposedly makes everything down there moist(I hate that word!), she then compared me to how this happens to people who are premenopausal. GREAT! Although she assured me that's not the case with me, but still is a bit of a moment) and because it's dry when I do things (like walk, etc) it's rubbing against itself and making abrasions and then bacteria gets in there and causing thrush. So. Now I need to get all my hormone levels tested 2 days into AF. I'm telling you girls this because you're all smart cookies and I know squat about hormones! I feel like I'm banging my head on a brick wall. AND THEN, we DTD last night and ran out of condoms, and I'm only CD 8 so I thought I'd be fairly safe but no, I was faced with huge amounts of EWCM this morning and now I don't know whether to start these herbs or not, and I was a little reluctant to mention it to her because he gives this "im disapointed" look out. But anyway, I'll stop whining now!

Beata, I had a play on my phone last night and I can get to BB from it (yay!) which is a bonus for me as well because I was pretty sure that I'd get pretty hefty withdrawals - If all elsed had failed I was going to see who here had facebook, and stalk you that way!
Did I see down there you are starting to TTC naturally for a bit? That is so great! and so great that your little body is Oing and everything. Eep! I'm so excited! never say never for sure! I hope you get a little surprise for mothers day Crossing all my digits!

Dee, sorry hun but I say stuff 'em. They need to realise you're aware of what can go wrong and you don't need them around to make you focus more on those negitive outcomes, you need them for support and to help you stay positive. I'd be telling them that to, if I were you.

Jos, that's great about the US, I think I have commented on them before. BUt still, how nice to see your little bubby every 2 weeks!

Erk, I need to go lay down. My nose is so blocked my eye is throbbing from all the pressure. Yum! I will be back later hopefully

love you all! xx

[Miss.B]

Oh hunni, that stupid cold! I hate when I get it too! Runny nose, sore throat, aches and pains, yuck yuck and more yuck!!!! I hope it goes away soon hun. Hopefully the herbs will help, so far they've made you feel heaps better.
And stay away ugly thrush!!!!!!! Sending you lots of healing energy and I you're back to your cheery self soon.
B xxx

[helle]

lol thanks beata, i'm a strong chook. I just like to whine alot XD

[dd0207]

Hi my darling girls

Do you believe this is the first time I've had a chance to log on and check up on you all !
It's madness at work atm. One more week left of this event then I can have a day off - it means I have worked 4 weeks straight now with only one day off!

I was thinking of Tildy this morning and I wanted to see if there was any announcement and was also wondering how Jo went with her stitch removal... ouch.

Sorry I don't have time to catch up on all the goss but just wanted to pop in and say HI and I think of you all, always.

Come on BFPs... and big hugs to our mammas.

Hugs and big kisses and I will catch up properly soon x

[Tildy]

I was thinking of Tildy this morning and I wanted to see if there was any announcement and was also wondering how Jo went with her stitch removal... ouch.

Nope. The doc swept my membranes on Monday and still nothing. She says the nasty cold can be keeping me from going into labor, though I was already dialated 2 fingers. But the cold isn't letting up, and Friday's most likely induction is fast approaching. I'll let you all know how it feels to have an induced birth while not able to breathe...

[Berry1]

Tildy, all the best for kebab's arrival, I really hope everything goes well and little bubs arrives safely.

Hi Diana, nice to see your ticker! Take care of yourself women, working 4-weeks straight is madness, what is your workplace doing? Make sure you get the rest you need.

Teagz, I hope you are feeling better. I have had a cold myself since Monday night. Hopefully it goes away for the weekend

Beata, I really pray that you get a miracle baby this month, how amazing would that be. I'm with you, never say never.

Dee, your situation sounds quite stressful. My view is that you should confront the sister & MIL, it seems that they know they can now make these comments and that you won't react. The comments are ridiculous and they need to realise this, not to mention cruel. If they comment again about you doing IVF, then ask them what you should do then, because the alternative is not having kids at all!!! Dee, don't let them get away with making you feel like losing Chloe is your fault, you really need to stand your ground with them. These people are your family now whether you like it or not (sorry about that ) so I think its best that you have it out rather than get angry and frustrated to yourself or your DH. Sorry for the ranting, that type of situation really annoys me. I do think you can defend yourself in a nice way, but let them know they can't continue to treat you like that.

On a more positive note Dee, I really pray that the blood test shows a BFP tomorrow. Sending all the positive vibes I can to you.

Looking forwards to the weekend. Hope everyone is well.