Trying to Conceive after Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/Stillbirth ~ March 09

[helle]

lol thanks beata, i'm a strong chook. I just like to whine alot XD

[dd0207]

Hi my darling girls

Do you believe this is the first time I've had a chance to log on and check up on you all !
It's madness at work atm. One more week left of this event then I can have a day off - it means I have worked 4 weeks straight now with only one day off!

I was thinking of Tildy this morning and I wanted to see if there was any announcement and was also wondering how Jo went with her stitch removal... ouch.

Sorry I don't have time to catch up on all the goss but just wanted to pop in and say HI and I think of you all, always.

Come on BFPs... and big hugs to our mammas.

Hugs and big kisses and I will catch up properly soon x

[Tildy]

I was thinking of Tildy this morning and I wanted to see if there was any announcement and was also wondering how Jo went with her stitch removal... ouch.

Nope. The doc swept my membranes on Monday and still nothing. She says the nasty cold can be keeping me from going into labor, though I was already dialated 2 fingers. But the cold isn't letting up, and Friday's most likely induction is fast approaching. I'll let you all know how it feels to have an induced birth while not able to breathe...

[Berry1]

Tildy, all the best for kebab's arrival, I really hope everything goes well and little bubs arrives safely.

Hi Diana, nice to see your ticker! Take care of yourself women, working 4-weeks straight is madness, what is your workplace doing? Make sure you get the rest you need.

Teagz, I hope you are feeling better. I have had a cold myself since Monday night. Hopefully it goes away for the weekend

Beata, I really pray that you get a miracle baby this month, how amazing would that be. I'm with you, never say never.

Dee, your situation sounds quite stressful. My view is that you should confront the sister & MIL, it seems that they know they can now make these comments and that you won't react. The comments are ridiculous and they need to realise this, not to mention cruel. If they comment again about you doing IVF, then ask them what you should do then, because the alternative is not having kids at all!!! Dee, don't let them get away with making you feel like losing Chloe is your fault, you really need to stand your ground with them. These people are your family now whether you like it or not (sorry about that ) so I think its best that you have it out rather than get angry and frustrated to yourself or your DH. Sorry for the ranting, that type of situation really annoys me. I do think you can defend yourself in a nice way, but let them know they can't continue to treat you like that.

On a more positive note Dee, I really pray that the blood test shows a BFP tomorrow. Sending all the positive vibes I can to you.

Looking forwards to the weekend. Hope everyone is well.

[helle]

Morning Girls!

DD, firstly. How the HECK do you do THAT! I struggle working 5 days in a row with 2 days off inbetween. UGH! You deserve a well earned weekend and mucho pampering, honey. xx

Tildy, aww, fashionaly late huh? hehe, It'll happen! (If it hasn't already!) I'll be sending some ..breaking water vibes? over the weekend!

Berry, Hello lovee I hope you feel better as well! It's not fun being sick that's for sure.

Beata for you too. Not long now! I think we're hitting the 40's in our countdown now. 45 Days? Woohoo!

AFM, nope. This cold won't let up. Humph. I'm dosed up on codral cold &flu tabs atm and feel a little spaced out. Ha! Thrush didn't come (YAAAAAYYY!!! I am a free woman at last!) So i've been able to actually enjoy practicing the BD. Hehe. Such a relief. This is the first month after AF (and after having my D&C in Dec) that I haven't gotten it (touch wood). I should throw a party in it's honour.

I hope all you beautiful ladies have an excellent weekend

[Chez67]

Hi lovely ladies

I hope everyone is enjoying their autumn weekend!

Dee - I was thinking of you yesterday - hope your b/t went well and am sending lots of for a BFP! And I agree with Berry, you need to stand your ground with your family and ask them to give you understanding and support. They should be able to respect your and DH's feelings and that doing IVF is not out of choice. I too have been told, and continue to be told by supposed well meaning people that we just need to relax to fall pg! It has to be the most useless old wives tale ever told! Remember that we understand are here to support you, even if your family doesn't!

Jas - hope you're feeling ok and I understand what you mean about the ms coming and going. We don't want it to come but when it goes we want it back to reassure that all is ok. Hope your doing well.

Teagz - vaginal dryness can be caused by lots of over the counter medications as well as being an hormonal issue. I'm not an expert but I have read that things like anti-inflammitories and anti-histamines (which might be in your Codral meds) and some cough mixtures are all culprits in this regard. My motto has been not to take anything other than panadol, and only then when I absolutely have to. Things like neurofen are also really bad for egg quality, although I only found this out about 18 months ago, and according to my FS since our bodies 'select' the eggs about 8 months before ovulation, it can take a long time to get out of your system! Anyway, I'm glad you didn't end up with thrush again . I have been madly taking Inner Health Plus along with the double dose of anti-biotics I have been on for the past week to try to avoid it myself!

DD - Working 4 weeks straight sounds like a lousy deal to me, especially for someone who is in their first trimester! Hope work settles down and you can have a well deserved break!

Tildy - hope your induction went smoothly (yeah, I know, I'm an optimist!) and your holding your precious little kebab in your arms right now!

AFM, had D&C on Wednesday afternoon. Had to wait ages to go in as the other surgeon was running behind schedule by 1.5hours! Anyway, it all went well apparently and I haven't had much pain or bleeding since. It wasn't too emotional for me as I think I had a week to process it all beforehand, although I did have a little cry when the aneasthetist was talking to me. He mentioned that the ob had already discussed our case with him and he was very sympathetic and understanding. My ob mentioned she was a bit sad because she had 4 D&Cs to do that afternoon, all due to pg loss/late miscarriage. It was so nice to finally be around some caring and compassionate specialists. We are thinking that if we do fall pg again, we will definitely ask for a referral to this ob.

I had a bit of down day yesterday, nothing in particular happened, but I think it might have been a bit of relief that we were finally ending the process of losing our baby, but also a sense of loss because the last of the physical aspect of being pregnant had gone. I know this doesn't make a lot of sense, but it was how I felt. And all I kept thinking was I should be 23 weeks pg and setting up the nursery and enjoying being pg, but all of this has been taken away from me. So I was feeling a bit sorry for myself as well. Thanks for reading my ramble if you have gotten this far.

To everyone else here, a big . Hope you have a relaxing weekend.
Cheryl

[AngelLukesmum]

Hi ladies

Just wanted to check in and let you all know that our princess has arrived safe and sound!

Kaitlyn James, arrived 14 April 2009 at 5.04pm. 2.825kgs/6lb 3, 47 cm long

I won't go into detail about the whole experience, but basically the stitch turned out to be a tricky bugger to remove (currently still MIA) but my ob managed to get it cut. I was already 2cm dilated and ready to go so he broke my waters and brought on labour with the drip. I was in labour for 4 and a bit hours, no pain relief after the massive gas out-of-body experience during the stitch cutting. We are home from hospital now and things are going well so far. BF is happening, and she sleeps well after feeds and DH and I are completely and utterly entranced and in love.

I can't wait for you all to bring your babies home. A bittersweet feeling but too wonderful for words also.

I don't know if we are allowed to post photos on here directly but I'll take a risk for you all...

Love to you all x