Lan -- of course you didn't kill Hamish. Though I can understand if hearing that it's an "act of God" might not feel any better -- it didn't for me, anyway, as I thought "If it was something that I did, then there's an explanation and I could make sure I didn't do it again!" DH and his mom both say half-jokingly that I have the worst of both worlds -- an atheist who still manages to believe I'm being punished when something bad happens to me.

I'm sorry your OB expressed himself clumsily -- we've been hearing a lot of that lately! Their bedside manner sure needs some work. You don't want to have to feel like they're sitting and Googling right before you walk in the room. Good job on asking the GP about a new OB.