hey girls!
tildy - we don't speak to my Dhs mother either (when i talk in here about his dad, its with his stepmum) She has never met DD and has'nt seen DS since he was 3.5 months old at his naming ceremony. (held at my parents house,at which she turned up with a boyfriend we had'nt met yet a photo was taken of her with DS and she seriously had the look of death in her eyes. The few people who saw it could not believe how she could look like that holding a baby) She was an incredilbly selfish woman who expected people to make her the centre of attention (very tiring) and who would expect you to arrange your life to fit in with hers everytime. the reason why we don't speak is because just after DS was born she said to come over for dinner and we said yes we'll be in touch and organise a date. (she only had Tues avaliable always due to seing her boyfriend) The next tues she rang to see where we were and we asked why and she said she had cooked dinner and we were like nooooooo, we said we'd be touch and she cracked it and came to his naming day (we thought we'd do the right thing), had a sour look on her face the whole time. Then cracked it again because for mothers day i wrote (not thinking) on the card "dear robyn" not mum. (i have never called her mum) And then cracked it because it did't include DS's name on it. THEN, sent his brother around with the card to tell us off and ask why we had'nt written mum etc. In the end it got too much and we could'nt handle what it was doing to us anymore. We refused to let her babysit on her own as she was a bit ditzy and was prone to more than a few drinks each day and i said to DH she'd go off shopping and forget there was a baby in the house. I could list inappropriate things and take over this thread (i think i have)but i wanted to let you know i can in part understand where you are coming from and you will cop s@#* from other people but at the end of the day you have a baby to take care of, as well as your self and by the sounds the emotional stress is not worth it. PHEW!
Laney - you've been in my thoughts because i have'nt sent your email yet! i will send off right after this! hope your feeling ok while DH is away...
Rozzie - I'm not sure how i would go if someone said that thing about the parents to me.
theresa - take care of you and a week can feel like forever but its not that long. It very hard and i had mixed feeling too about those angelversarys, you are happy because you have a new bubs growing in there but at the same time it made me miss what could have been also. Its so hard all the emotions we continue to go through. hope your feeling better and that DF is still taking care of you.(very sweet)
beata -LOVE that bit you wrote about angel souls, LOVED it! Beautifully put!
berry -so sorry that AF has arrived. Hope it is over nice and quick for you...
paula -hope you high is continuing!!!! Start the new week with a bang!
hi to everyone else! better go, was planning to leave at 9am and DD still is'nt up.
take care! xx jo