Teni, Dory, I just wanted to put in my two bobs worth which may or may not help as each of s have a different journey.
I have felt a lot fo what Dory has mentioned but it have also occurred to me lately that i needed time to spend in my first daughter before I have to share my energy with another baby. At first it was a fear of replacement, then a fear for being hurt again...which still exists. But the very big thing for me that underlied it all was the the desire to spend time with her and only her. If she would have survived I would have spent the time with her until have another. I have found that really important for me.. I feel I don't have the space in my head or my life for another child yet and I believe that is changing atm and the reason we have not fallen pregnant yet.
I have foudn this really helped me.
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