SusieQ - so glad that you are on the TCC train now! Sorry that you had to have a D&C but it seems from what you have written it was needed. Hope your pondering about clomid brings you to a resolution, I can understand your fears. Can't wait to read about your temp, CM, and OPK'ing.
Tenibear- Hooray AF has passed. Onto a new chapter.....I second dory when she says there is no 'good' time to have a baby. One of my advisors in college told me this and I find that there are always reasons (money, work etc.) to wait.....As far as replacing Ianto- everything I have read and looked at says that you will not do this. I understand your fears, but Ianto has a very special and private place in your hearts and will always. They say that in the far off future you will watch your children playing on the playground and remember and long for the one(s) you lost. I often think of how much my perspective and my life has changed because of our DS and I would not change it for anything. Like your Ianto, I think all our children will always have a place in our lives because they make up who we are......Sorry I will get off my soapbox- please feel free to scold me if necessary.
SusieQ- thank you--and congrats on beginning to TTC! How wonderful that your doctor is boosting your cycles with Clomid to get you started. I look forward to hearing about your OPKs and jounrey. Best of luck that it is a short one hun.
Tenibear - I can tell you from my own experience, you will without a doubt love all of your children equally. Another child will never ever replace Ianto. I kind of questioned why I was so eager to TTC again but I was reading an article about David Cameron (I am living in the UK at the moment) who lost his 6 year old disabled son a little under a year ago. He and his wife are pregnant again and one comment really resonated with me and that was that the new baby would never replace their lost son but that the pregnancy had brought their family hope and happiness in a very difficult and sad time. I know that is how I feel about TTC again.
Dory - I cannot believe I missed you on my last post - rude rude me. I am really glad to hear everything is progressing well for you. I read your threads on the pregnancy forum to see how you are going!
Time for me to start obsessing over temps. Mine was 35.5 this morning. I generally have low temps but this one is really low. Thinking my system must be quite really screwed up at the moment with everything that has happened. Going to take cd1 from D&C - imagine it might be a long cycle this month so will start with the later date.
Well I am a newby to this thread. I just stumbled across it and thought that it would be a very helpful thread to be in, hope you all don't mind me joining in.
I have been through nowhere near as much as majority of you all have but I still struggle day to day with my losses. DH and I have been TTC since May 07 (when we were married). We have been lucky enough to conceive twice but unfortunately lost both to MC. I had all the test done and everything seemed to look ok so I still have no explanation to why this has happened. I put it down to one of two things: 1 - I suffer from DVT's so I could have had clotting around the placenta and 2 - My progesterone levels could have been too low. I have been told that my hormones are all over the place.
As it takes us quiet a while to conceive, my OB has started me on Clomid and Pregnyl injections around cd12. He has also got me taking 100mg of aspirin as he thinks this should help with implantation and lessen the chances of Blood Clotting. I am now on my second cyclce of clomid and had my cd21 BT on Monday so I get the results for that tomorrow.
Has anyone else had any troubles with their progesterone levels? What do you do to fix this?
So happy to have found this thread and I look forward to being a part of it.
Thanks everyone for your opinions on my problem with DH I see where all of you are coming from, and I also see that it's something that we should sort out for ourselves. I'm not out to replace Ianto, not at all, and neither is DH. He just felt like I was trying to.
We've both come up with different solutions throughout today - mine I couldn't even stick to for twenty minutes I instinctively wrote down that we'd dtd... right after I said that from now until August(ish) we're not actively trying. Just not using protection Apparently there's a difference... Intention, I suppose. He's promised that he'll be a bit more interested now
I don't mind if we're dtd for different reasons. He's said to me that he wouldn't mind me being pregnant again, he just doesn't want to try to get pregnant... So frustrating!
Hope - welcome and I am so sorry for the loss of your precious angel boys.
Sweetie, a loss is a loss. You still have to deal with grief, bereavement,and loss of your dreams, irrespective of when a loss occurs. In my view the stage of the loss determines only some different physical aspects to confront but the grief is a common burden, irrespective of timing. Find the courage within yourself not to minimise your losses. A friend of mine whose baby was still born at 39 weeks gave me that advice when my daughter Amelia was born at 22 weeks gestation. I remember saying at the time that my loss could not compare with hers, and she was so generous in the advice she gave. In truth her advice was a gift. I couldn't really understand her advice initially, but now I have come to embrace it, especially as other parents share the experiences of their grief. Whilst each person walks their own grief journey there are some common threads. Ianna has done a really good summary of the possible causes and treatment options of recurrent miscarriage. I will post the link later in this message for you. I found it really helpful. You might too - it might be a springboard to ask your Ob more questions... aspirin is not the only treatment option for concerns about clotting. Some people are prescribed heparin, but it is administered by injection and does result in quite severe bruising. I am not medically trained and there will be other reasons for heparin to be prescribed or not. Asprin is much easier to administer. I discussed the option of another medication for clotting with a Dr that I consulted for a second opinion. I can't remember what it was but it began with "C", I think clexane. I was given reasons why clexane was preferable for me at the time over heparin and asprin, but I didn't end up needing that treatment. I can't offer anything to you in relation to progesterone levels... maybe someone else can?
I hope your TCC journey now is relatively quick...... I have a friend who has been diagnosed with an enzyme imbalance which affects her ability to conceive. I can't remember what its called. I will have to ask her. It was discovered inadvertently, but confirmed via blood tests at specific days of her cycle. She has seen an endocrinologist about it. Apparently there is treatment that might assist with her conception chances. She has been TCC for 5 years with 2 m/c and has attempted IVF, FET, traditional chinese medicine, changing her work. Her DH also has some sperm health issues. I only share my friends experiences as it might give you something else to ask about. Knowledge is power.
Teni - glad you have come to some sort of happy resolution.
Susie - no offence taken! And, thankyou for your kind words.
Angelic, Chez, Blessed, Gigi - hiya - thinking of you. Congrats to the escapees - cmegelles, charli and crumpet.
Dory: Thankyou for your condolences and a huge thankyou for all that you said. You have no idea how lovely it was to read your post. It is so hard as sometimes you do feel like you have no one to turn to, especially when it isn't a known happening. The link that you posted for me to look at was great. I actually copied and printed it so I can take some notes to know what other things I can ask OB when I see him.
Your right, it is called Clexane. I had to take this once before when I had a DVT. It is also administered by injection into the abdomen. I did not know you could take this while pregnant, maybe that is something I need to look into a little further.
Thankyou also for the info on your friend. There are so many possibilities. I think that sometimes you just take what the OB tells you and leave it at that. These forums are such a great idea for people in similar situations to be able to bounce off of each other. that the TTC journey isn't too long and has a great outcome, not only for me but for anyone else TTC.
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I instinctively wrote down that we'd dtd... right after I said that from now until August(ish) we're not actively trying. Just not using protection
Apparently there's a difference... Intention, I suppose. He's promised that he'll be a bit more interested now
that the TTC journey isn't too long and has a great outcome, not only for me but for anyone else TTC.
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